Speaking of expenses
#1
Posted 19 January 2007 - 05:09 PM
John
#2
Posted 19 January 2007 - 05:11 PM
#3
Posted 19 January 2007 - 05:16 PM
"Love is blind but lust likes lacy panties" -- SanDiegoCarol
"If you're gonna be dumb, you'd better be tough." -- Phillip Manor
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#4
Posted 19 January 2007 - 06:43 PM
#5
Posted 19 January 2007 - 07:10 PM
#6
Posted 19 January 2007 - 08:23 PM
Also, I believe statistics show that the most common point of friction in any marriage is finances
#7
Posted 19 January 2007 - 10:45 PM
If you're in a community property state like Texas and you're not married, then separate accounts are a must!
Also, I believe statistics show that the most common point of friction in any marriage is finances
This is very true and excellant advice!
My ex and I were married for 23 years and all our major arguments were about money...
He was overly controlling and hid every penny he could. He had other issues but this was the biggie. He even insisted my paychecks go directly into his accounts but I had no access to my money ....I was kept virtually in the dark about all our finances and I really did have to"" sneak" in any purchases..even groceries and kids clothes , etc..it was a nightmare...
I will NEVER EVER share finances with anyone. Separate accounts are a must. But ..you both need to be open and honest about what it is you want and need ..Secrets lead to distrust..
I can now say,after happily shopping without going home sick with anxiety, my dog loves all that I get and thinks my tastes are Fabulous!!
Karen
Edited by nurseshark, 19 January 2007 - 10:45 PM.
#8
Posted 20 January 2007 - 01:43 PM
#9
Posted 18 February 2009 - 02:50 PM
Which end is up?
#10
Posted 18 February 2009 - 03:18 PM
Now that we're on the rocks marriage-wise, we have separated our finances for the most part. I'm sure it's a shock to his system to have to deal with his own bills & banking... and investments? Fuggedaboudit! He'll be asking me questions for years....
#11
Posted 18 February 2009 - 04:50 PM
For over 18 years, I had a joint account with my spouse. Since I'm an accountant I handled all the money, bills, investments, taxes. etc.
Now that we're on the rocks marriage-wise, we have separated our finances for the most part. I'm sure it's a shock to his system to have to deal with his own bills & banking... and investments? Fuggedaboudit! He'll be asking me questions for years....
I understand your situation very well!
Which end is up?
#12
Posted 18 February 2009 - 05:25 PM
Anyone have a "What's her's is her's and what's mine is her's" ?
that is pretty much how it is around here. I don't see my paycheck, it goes directly into the bank. My wife has a trust fund that she gets income from that goes into a bank account in her name only. However that account does pay the property taxes, insurance etc.
It works for us. We have been married for 33 years and we never fight about money. That's cause I don't have any
Just kidding. I get a pretty nice bonus from work every year and that is mine. I do with it as I please, I don't ask, or discuss.
It all works out in the end.
#13
Posted 18 February 2009 - 08:09 PM
We have separate checking accounts, and a joint savings account. We agree to talk about big purchases that we make, but I'd be upset if I had to account for all the purchases I make.Anyone have a "What's her's is her's and what's mine is her's" ?
What hubby spends is his.
-Margaret
Edited by scubajunkie6, 18 February 2009 - 08:10 PM.
#14
Posted 18 February 2009 - 09:26 PM
Once we divided up the checking accounts and bill paying responsibilities and income increased the arguments went away. We now have way too much furniture and probably too many of my toys too.
#15
Posted 18 February 2009 - 10:29 PM
Not only do I think finances need to be kept separate I think a good prenuptial is a must!!
Not changing the subject but are prenups legal in Texas?????
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