Ok so what is the secret to ruining a perfectly good relationship or keeping one from starting? I of course have a vested interest but I'm guessing others might benefit from this discussion too!
What is the secret to ruining a relationship?
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, Aug 27 2007 01:25 PM
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 01:25 PM
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 01:52 PM
Absolutely, without a doubt, the biggest mistake I have seen over and over again is taking the other person for granted. Sometimes the little things need to be said. It is amazing how far a simple "thank you" or "I really love spending time with you" can go.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 02:03 PM
Lying.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 02:07 PM
Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!Lying.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 02:23 PM
Always second-guessing the other person's decisions about their life--especially ones you had nothing to do with and could never have had anything to do with because you weren't in a relationship when those decisions had to be made.
Passive-aggressive behavior.
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Passive-aggressive behavior.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 02:29 PM
Those are all great points so far...
I would also add that expecting the person to change to what you want them to be will definitely ruin a relationship. You can't change someone and you can't change yourself for someone - you accept them and appreciate them for what they are and what each brings to the relationship.
I would also add that expecting the person to change to what you want them to be will definitely ruin a relationship. You can't change someone and you can't change yourself for someone - you accept them and appreciate them for what they are and what each brings to the relationship.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 02:31 PM
If you are not happy by yourself then someone else isn't going to help things...
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 03:20 PM
All good points. I have to say any of the ones listed would cause me to end a relationship.
I prefer:
to be told the truth
have you accept me for me
allow me to continue to be myself after we agree to be a couple
don't judge the things I have done in the past ~ you weren't there and you have no right
don't try and be who you think I want ~ just be the man I met and fell in love with (if I wanted someone else I wouldn't have said yes to you)
don't forget to appreciate me
don't try and "fix" everything for me ~ I will ask when I need help
I think its very important to treat your partner like you want to be treated.
Michelle ~ you are correct ~ at least for me its the little things that matter most.
I prefer:
to be told the truth
have you accept me for me
allow me to continue to be myself after we agree to be a couple
don't judge the things I have done in the past ~ you weren't there and you have no right
don't try and be who you think I want ~ just be the man I met and fell in love with (if I wanted someone else I wouldn't have said yes to you)
don't forget to appreciate me
don't try and "fix" everything for me ~ I will ask when I need help
I think its very important to treat your partner like you want to be treated.
Michelle ~ you are correct ~ at least for me its the little things that matter most.
Edited by gis_gal, 27 August 2007 - 03:21 PM.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 03:26 PM
All good points. I have to say any of the ones listed would cause me to end a relationship.
I prefer:
to be told the truth
have you accept me for me
allow me to continue to be myself after we agree to be a couple
don't judge the things I have done in the past ~ you weren't there and you have no right
don't try and be who you think I want ~ just be the man I met and fell in love with (if I wanted someone else I wouldn't have said yes to you)
don't forget to appreciate me
don't try and "fix" everything for me ~ I will ask when I need help
I think its very important to treat your partner like you want to be treated.
Michelle ~ you are correct ~ at least for me its the little things that matter most.
You summed it up very well!
And if you add all of these up they equal 
! If you can't respect one another then you might as well go your separate ways.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 03:46 PM
Don't give the other person time away from you and everything /one else. Require them to always be at your beck and call at all times.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 03:56 PM
Don't give the other person time away from you and everything /one else. Require them to always be at your beck and call at all times.
Agreed!
Not being truthful can wreak havoc too... Being truthful about emotional, financial and all other issues in between is very important IMHO.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 04:15 PM
My last girlfriend said that I referred to my previous relationships too much. She felt that she was competing with the ghosts of my past.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 04:38 PM
Calling every twenty minutes, if it takes me four hours to drive somewhere and you call me twenty minutes after I left, and then again twenty minutes after that chances are I'm still driving.
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 05:11 PM
Calling every twenty minutes, if it takes me four hours to drive somewhere and you call me twenty minutes after I left, and then again twenty minutes after that chances are I'm still driving.
Maybe she just missed you...or just liked talking to you!
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Posted 27 August 2007 - 05:29 PM
Calling every twenty minutes, if it takes me four hours to drive somewhere and you call me twenty minutes after I left, and then again twenty minutes after that chances are I'm still driving.
Maybe she just missed you...or just liked talking to you!
No---she likes STALKING him.
Put another one on the list....
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