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[Hipshot]

Temper. Remember, one can apologize for something they said, but the person they said it to knows that they thought it.

Rick

[echo3]

1. remember that boys and girls are wired differently

2. don't expect your boyfriend to be like your girlfriends

3. don't rely 100% on your emotions. what I mean by that is. think about whats going on in your relationship and refer to items 1 and 2 above.

4. pretty much everything else people already mentioned is good advice.

5. lying would probably be the #1 offense.

[scubachick84]

Don't be too needy. I want someone who can be my partner, and I certainly don't want to have to be in charge all the time (OK, I'm a LITTLE bossy sometimes).

If being together doesn't make each of you a better person in your own life, then there's no point.

[Bubbles]

Keeping secrets from one another. It's best to be open and truthful from the start, because when things are kept hidden, they end up causing more problems later.

[drbill]

Absolutely, without a doubt, the biggest mistake I have seen over and over again is taking the other person for granted. Sometimes the little things need to be said. It is amazing how far a simple "thank you" or "I really love spending time with you" can go.

The other big mistake is doting over her too much. Both will drive most women away.

By the way... what's a "relationship?" I know I have one with my pony bottle, but...

[pir8]

How did that old one go:

Man marries Woman thinking she won't change...
She Will

Woman marries Man thinking he will change.
He Won't

[Dennis]

Ahh, the age old question. It really isn't easy to answer, because people are so different and have different ideas and belief foundations. But, from an old married man (married 28 years and still going strong), here are my thoughts on the subject.

Each of you need to give 110% and feel as you only get 50%. And you should think that is just fine.

Tell him/her you love him/her many, many times every day and mean it.

You will get frustrated and angry with him/her. Wait until the immediate anger is gone before you say or do anything. If you have to, take a long walk. (I have only had to do take the long walk once.) Afterward, talk. Preferably holding hands and discussing the situation. You both will have to give in this instance. And, you should think that is just fine.

Have breakfast and supper together.

Share cooking, cleaning, and other chores. No one person should have to be stuck with such tedious jobs.

Rub her feet. Kamala, this one is just for your sweetie. You don't have to reciprocate unless you want to. He would probably rather something else get rubbed. (Did I say that?) Damn right I did.

Never act jealous. Well, not an angry jealous. A little jealousy can be cute. Donna has shown that only twice since I have known her and I cherish both memories. If you trust each other, jealousy is really non-existant.

Have fun together.

Let him/her have fun with friends (including those of the opposite sex and remember the jealousy thing). I actually have more female friends than male friends. Donna has a lot of male friends. She is an engineer for heaven's sake, what can you expect?

You don't have to go every where together. Let each other have some private time and space.

Share in the household finances. Donna does the bills and finances for two years and then we switch. That way both people know how to take care of the bills and both people understand the budget and where all the money goes.

Shoot, I could go for a while, but if you ever want more advise on a specific thing, give me a yell.

[Basslet]

Lying.

Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

How about making promises you don't intend to keep?

[WreckWench]

Shoot, I could go for a while, but if you ever want more advise on a specific thing, give me a yell.

WOW! That was amazing....I think you've learned a lot in 28 years! Yes'll I'll pm for more!

[pir8]

Sorry sometimes I must take my time in reading. The others are pretty much there also.

Lying.

Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

How about making promises you don't intend to keep?

[WreckWench]

Sorry sometimes I must take my time in reading. The others are pretty much there also.

Lying.

Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

How about making promises you don't intend to keep?

And here I thought you were agreeing with her...not disagreeing.

[pir8]

I was I just didn't know I was.

Sorry sometimes I must take my time in reading. The others are pretty much there also.

Lying.

Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

How about making promises you don't intend to keep?

And here I thought you were agreeing with her...not disagreeing.

[Basslet]

I have that effect on people

I was I just didn't know I was.

Sorry sometimes I must take my time in reading. The others are pretty much there also.

Lying.

Sorry but that will ruin a relationship!

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

How about making promises you don't intend to keep?

And here I thought you were agreeing with her...not disagreeing.

Edited by Fairybasslet, 28 August 2007 - 08:53 AM.

[shadragon]

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

Huh...? French Toast please...

[pir8]

That's what she asked. How to ruin it. How about "Not listening?"

Huh...? French Toast please...

I'll go with the Bacon & Chedder Omelete with Rye Toast and can I have the Home Fries Well Done Please. Thank You.