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#31 jextract

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Posted 28 August 2007 - 10:17 AM

don't try and "fix" everything for me ~ I will ask when I need help

Don't feel the need to talk our ear off about stuff that you don't want us to fix. We're fixers; it's what we do. Gabbing for the sake of gabbing is what your girlfriends are for.
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Posted 28 August 2007 - 11:38 AM

Dishonesty..It makes me completely loose trust
I guess we 've covered this with lying.
But once that boundry has been crossed its so hard to find trust again.
Other things can be forgiven. People make mistakes, but lying takes effort and planning.

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Posted 28 August 2007 - 01:33 PM

Don't feel the need to talk our ear off about stuff that you don't want us to fix. We're fixers; it's what we do. Gabbing for the sake of gabbing is what your girlfriends are for.

I have to agree ~ Girlfriend/Guyfriend time is very important for both sides.

It important to remember each others strengths and weaknesses.
Work together to allow both partners a chance to excel.

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Posted 28 August 2007 - 01:36 PM

Negative attitude and a thousand other things, but I know I don't like negative vibes and unfortunately, guys don't like the negative vibes I give off (what? Me? NEVER?)
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Posted 28 August 2007 - 09:47 PM

Ok so what is the secret to ruining a perfectly good relationship or keeping one from starting? I of course have a vested interest but I'm guessing others might benefit from this discussion too!


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Posted 29 August 2007 - 06:38 AM

Ok, here is my take on what will ruin a relationship.

If one night, your wife comes home early from having dinner with her parents. Both of your in-laws are with her as she walks into the living room.

There you are, naked except a pair of leather chaps and a gag ball in your mouth. There are 5 hookers also in the room, 4 of which are males. 2 of them have riding crops in their hands. 2 more of them are snorting cocaine off of the 5th one’s a$$. You are covered in hot wax and peanut butter. Throughout the room there are, jumper cables, 7 pounds of ball bearings, a trapeze, a dead circus clown, a car door off of the local police departments new cruiser, a small caliber handgun, and a broken power drill. There is a mule lying on the floor and 3 monkeys are swinging from the chandelier. A 55 gal drum is filled with a fresh batch of crystal meth.

Oh, and you are listening to a John Tesh CD. :)

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Posted 29 August 2007 - 06:43 AM

Oh, and you are listening to a John Tesh CD. :)

Yeah, that is a deal breaker right there...
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Posted 29 August 2007 - 07:10 AM

Ok so what is the secret to ruining a perfectly good relationship or keeping one from starting? I of course have a vested interest but I'm guessing others might benefit from this discussion too!


No supper.



Are you STILL hungry!?! lol
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Posted 29 August 2007 - 02:50 PM

Ok so what is the secret to ruining a perfectly good relationship or keeping one from starting? I of course have a vested interest but I'm guessing others might benefit from this discussion too!


No supper.



Are you STILL hungry!?! lol


Yes. But not for my "cooking". :cheerleader:

Edited by Brinybay, 29 August 2007 - 02:50 PM.

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Posted 29 August 2007 - 03:51 PM

Don't expect the guy to be like your Dad, or your former boyfriend you were crazy about but he wasn't crazy about you, or whoever. Love him for who he is. Listen when he tells you what made his past significant relationships bad and pick up a few tips on what not to do. Once the "L" word has been exchanged and both parties are fully comfortable with it, be sure to say "I love you" a lot. Also, the suggestion about rubbing feet/rubbing other parts for women/guys is also right on the money (not that guys don't like their feet rubbed, too).

Edited by mantarraya, 29 August 2007 - 03:51 PM.

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Posted 29 August 2007 - 08:58 PM

Ok, here is my take on what will ruin a relationship.

If one night, your wife comes home early from having dinner with her parents. Both of your in-laws are with her as she walks into the living room.

There you are, naked except a pair of leather chaps and a gag ball in your mouth. There are 5 hookers also in the room, 4 of which are males. 2 of them have riding crops in their hands. 2 more of them are snorting cocaine off of the 5th one’s a$$. You are covered in hot wax and peanut butter. Throughout the room there are, jumper cables, 7 pounds of ball bearings, a trapeze, a dead circus clown, a car door off of the local police departments new cruiser, a small caliber handgun, and a broken power drill. There is a mule lying on the floor and 3 monkeys are swinging from the chandelier. A 55 gal drum is filled with a fresh batch of crystal meth.

Oh, and you are listening to a John Tesh CD. :banghead:

Not that has happened to me or anything! :diver:



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Posted 29 August 2007 - 09:03 PM

Ok, here is my take on what will ruin a relationship.

If one night, your wife comes home early from having dinner with her parents. Both of your in-laws are with her as she walks into the living room.

There you are, naked except a pair of leather chaps and a gag ball in your mouth. There are 5 hookers also in the room, 4 of which are males. 2 of them have riding crops in their hands. 2 more of them are snorting cocaine off of the 5th one’s a$$. You are covered in hot wax and peanut butter. Throughout the room there are, jumper cables, 7 pounds of ball bearings, a trapeze, a dead circus clown, a car door off of the local police departments new cruiser, a small caliber handgun, and a broken power drill. There is a mule lying on the floor and 3 monkeys are swinging from the chandelier. A 55 gal drum is filled with a fresh batch of crystal meth.

Oh, and you are listening to a John Tesh CD. :flirt:

Not that has happened to me or anything! :o



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I think he's been listening to that John Tesh CD too much!!

or maybe watching Pulp Fiction :banghead:

anyway, I'd say that anger, dis-respect, dishonesty, substance abuse, and apathy will destroy any relationship, it doesn't matter if it's friends or an SO

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Posted 30 August 2007 - 08:56 PM

Ok, here is my take on what will ruin a relationship.

If one night, your wife comes home early from having dinner with her parents. Both of your in-laws are with her as she walks into the living room.

There you are, naked except a pair of leather chaps and a gag ball in your mouth. There are 5 hookers also in the room, 4 of which are males. 2 of them have riding crops in their hands. 2 more of them are snorting cocaine off of the 5th one’s a$$. You are covered in hot wax and peanut butter. Throughout the room there are, jumper cables, 7 pounds of ball bearings, a trapeze, a dead circus clown, a car door off of the local police departments new cruiser, a small caliber handgun, and a broken power drill. There is a mule lying on the floor and 3 monkeys are swinging from the chandelier. A 55 gal drum is filled with a fresh batch of crystal meth.

Oh, and you are listening to a John Tesh CD. :P

Not that has happened to me or anything! :D



Well, I know I'd leave her for that! I mean the nerve of trying to get her parents to join in. Thats just wrong! :P

But seriously... I would have to say that as long as you can both be yourself not try to make the other something they not is a big thing.

Edited by Tank, 30 August 2007 - 09:00 PM.


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Posted 31 August 2007 - 10:14 PM

Ok so what is the secret to ruining a perfectly good relationship or keeping one from starting? I of course have a vested interest but I'm guessing others might benefit from this discussion too!


Ok, here's a recent experience I had that pretty much killed it from the start. Give a complete, detailed history of all your past and present relationships and your sexual experience, starting from losing your virginity. BORING!
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Posted 13 September 2007 - 02:00 PM

Where do you come up with this stuff???? :wakawaka:



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