How long is long?
#1
Posted 29 October 2007 - 03:16 PM
This isn't one of those threads.
Just for grins, how about a little roundup of stories. How far was your longest long-distance relationship? What did you like and what did you detest about it? How did it ultimately work out? For that matter, how many long distance relationships have you had anyway?
Whaddaya say, SDers? Tell me yours, and I'll tell you mine...
Cheers!
Jim
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#2
Posted 29 October 2007 - 03:21 PM
What I liked was getting to know each other so well since we talked so much.
What I disliked was the inability to see each other every day and that feeling of disappointment along with elation everytime we visited since we knew that the time was fleeting.
Given that we are now living together, it definitely seems to have worked!
I've had other LDRs in the past but not nearly as much distance nor as important of relationships.
#3
Posted 29 October 2007 - 03:44 PM
I liked the aspect of really talking, and never taking each other for granted.
I didn't like the fact that I couldn't see her when I wanted or needed too. And I could barely help her when she needed somebody to lean on.
In the end it didn't work, but I don't think the distance had anything to do with that. There were too many issues in her life for her to deal with at that time, and things just kind of fell apart, like the week before I was scheduled with the embassy in order to get my resident visa.
It was a real rollercoaster of a year, it had some awesome highs, and some really low lows. I wouldn't do it again...unless I fall that deeply again...then all bets are off!
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#4
Posted 29 October 2007 - 03:57 PM
Nowadays 1000 miles was no big deal. Flights are cheap and can get together fairly regularly. Communications are much easier now with cell technology, email, online chat/instant messaging and text messaging.
#5
Posted 29 October 2007 - 05:06 PM
I liked not having someone in my armpit all of the time, but close enough where we can remedy the wanting to see each other, and as someone else stated, communication is so important when you are getting to know someone so we would spend a good deal of time really talking.
My co-workers think I'm crazy cause I will not date anyone in our town. For them anything that entails a 30 minute drive is a LDR!!!
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#6
Posted 30 October 2007 - 05:01 AM
Distance for me is not a factor. It is for a lot of folks though...
"Gee, you live at 3502 Main Street? Sorry, my cut off range for dating is 3500 Main..."
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#7
Posted 30 October 2007 - 07:25 AM
Well, as promised here's mine:
My longest LDR is around 5,500 miles via Great Circle route. It's obviously working out quite well since we're engaged, and just waiting on the immigration paperwork to get processed.
I've noticed most people have prominantly mentioned communications as one of the positive things. I couldn't agree more; even though my fiance speaks another language (she is fluent in English, which helps) and lives across an ocean and a continent, the level of communication in this relationship has surpassed anything I've ever experienced before. I had attempted a long distance relationship before, years before the ubiquitous availability of the Internet and its various realtime and near-realtime communications technologies, and I have to say things like e-mail and Skype have made things so much easier these days. Even a quick SMS message is inexpensive and nearly instantaneous, even across international borders.
The downside, as mentioned by others, is the lack of face-to-face contact. We have been blessed by being able to spend a fair amount of time together in spite of the distance, but it still wasn't nearly as much as we would have wanted under different circumstances. On the other hand, it has forced us to work on verbal and written communications skills, and I think that has been a good thing. I'd still like to snuggle once in a while, though..
So there you have it. Keep 'em coming, folks!
Cheers!
Jim
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#8
Posted 30 October 2007 - 08:01 AM
For about a year I had a "relationship" with an intelligent and accomplished woman diver from Tokyo. Although we'd never met face-to-face, we e-mailed quite frequently and talked on the phone occasionally. She wanted me to move to Tokyo and said she would move further out from the city so we could get a larger apartment even though she'd have to commute a longer distance.
Finally we met face-to-face and the magic was gone... on her part. No idea why. Heck, I'd showered and even used deodorant the day she arrived. Oh well.
Edited by drbill, 30 October 2007 - 08:02 AM.
#9
Posted 30 October 2007 - 08:06 AM
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#10
Posted 30 October 2007 - 08:49 AM
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#11
Posted 30 October 2007 - 10:06 AM
My longest long distance relationship was 12 time zones and about 8,000 miles heading ENE or about 7,000 miles if you go over the north pole, which was never an option. It was love at first sight, we did not have a common language and were engaged in three days. We were apart for 6 months during which time we exchanged letters (one of her friends translated my letters to her and helped her write in English while teaching her to speak English), but due to the shortage of telephones in Siberia at the time, we only talked once in those 6 months. We were married for 6˝ years and have two wonderful children who are now adults. We are still friends, she's a wonderful lady.
Now that's a great story Walter!
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#12
Posted 30 October 2007 - 10:32 AM
Maybe she found one of these...For about a year I had a "relationship" with an intelligent and accomplished woman diver from Tokyo... ...Finally we met face-to-face and the magic was gone... on her part. No idea why. Heck, I'd showered and even used deodorant the day she arrived. Oh well.
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#13
Posted 30 October 2007 - 10:48 AM
I've been in a much shorter-distance LD-relationship for a little more than 1.5 yr- Galveston/DFW area, about 326 mi from his house to mine. He's the older brother of my niece's best friends, and my niece and her friends had been trying to get us to meet for years - we just never came to the same parties or events. We hit it off immediately, and much to both of our surprise, fell for each other.
We've kept connected by web-camming almost every night, email, etc. At first, we tried to see each other every 3 weeks, then it shortened to every 2 weeks, and now we see each other probably 3 out 4 weekends each month. He's in the process of finding a job in my area, and moving down to Galveston. I would have moved there if need be, but in the end, we figured that there were better reasons for him to move here than vice versa.
I'll be very glad when the longest distance we have to travel to see each other is the length of my hallway. However, the LD thing worked fine for us - definitely showed some level of interest and commitment to go to the lengths we've had to go to build the relationship.
#14
Posted 30 October 2007 - 12:21 PM
Now that's a great story Walter!
Thanks Darlin'. It would be an even better story if we were still together. When I decided to dive Siberia, I thought the only thing I would bring home would be frost bite.
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#15
Posted 30 October 2007 - 01:19 PM
I dated a guy for about 7 months LDR. The relationship was very solid and had lots of potential to go the distance but ultimately for a number of reasons it did not work out. However it was interesting that he told me knew more about me in 7 months than he did his ex-wife being married to her for 7 years. And if he had discussed even half the things that we had discussed he would have never gotten married to her.
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