4 replies to this topic

[sharkCrazy]

If you had a long tumultuous divorce.....would you get married again?







*Split from another topic so it would not get lost.

[grim reefer]

Not on your life. A snow ball has a better chance in the 9th circle of Hell. A voluntary, long term committed relationship: sure. The shackles of a marriage: no way. Why should it cost me thousands in legal fees and take a year or more to end a bad relationship with someone (even if it's someone who cheats on me or absuses me).

[ScubaPunk]

I have to say I feel the same way as Grim Reefer. A long term committed relationship would be ok, but there is not reason to get married at this point in my life.

Even though marriage is not for me, I do believe it can work. You have to be so very careful in finding the right person. You have to think with your head and not let your heart blind you. And you certainly cannot let the past control your future.

[ScubaSis]

I agree with Sandy! I don't feel bitter about my past any longer, but there are things I don't want to repeat!! The legal document of a piece of paper only complicates things if it doesn't work out. I've been through enough credit and financial issues because of my divorce. I still believe in marriage for OTHER people. It just didn't work for me. I see no need to give another person access to my finances again. At the end of a Tina Turner song she says "I can do bad all by myself"......sums it up for me!

[Buzo Guero]

I must agree with you all. It was always a one time deal for me, from the beginning. I've known that since I was very young. Now, I don't want to have any more kids, nor am I able. In my opinion, the desire to have children is one of the rational reasons to consider marriage, though not the only one, by any means. I'm enjoying my two teenage sons so much! They are my reason for living. Life is complicated enough! While I don't condemn marriage, in general, I know that it won't be in my future plans. I may stay with someone for the rest of my days. The legal contract, however, won't be a part of the equation. After a HELLISH divorce, I'm so enjoying my freedom, my sanity, my personal space, that I could never imagine being married, again. I feel more liberated than I ever have before in my life!!! I couldn't imagine giving that up, or ever having to worry about walking around on eggshells, ever again. As you've stated, I believe in it for OTHER people.

Edited by Buzo Guero, 20 July 2012 - 03:57 PM.