Men: What do you like?
#1
Posted 10 May 2004 - 08:02 AM
I see attractive men out shopping and such, but have no clue how to initiate contact. My last trip to the mall I kept having eye contact with a guy in Williams Sonoma, but unfortunately collapsed in a coughing spasm since I had a terrible cold, and was too humiliated to talk to him. I am really clueless as to the whole flirting deal, and feel like I need some plan of action to follow here. I hate bars and really don't have many single friends. A good friend of mine met her SO at Starbucks- she initiated contact.
So anyway- just wondering how you guys feel about this and if you have any suggestions. Or ladies, any good stories or pick up lines you use?
Thanks for your help!
#2
Posted 10 May 2004 - 08:17 AM
I really appreciate it when a woman feels comfortable doing that. Ice breakers are often all that is needed!
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#3
Posted 10 May 2004 - 08:17 AM
Well now as a bonafide red blooded single guy. I would probably respond very favourably to something like a warm sincere smile and a "Hi name name is "nycamico" how are you?" I'd take it from there! Even if I wasn't interested we would still share a few pleasant moments together,,,and that's always a good thing.
pleasantmomentsarenicewas
#4
Posted 10 May 2004 - 08:51 AM
So here's your chance to tell me what to do. I was working on Saturday with a few people in the same profession (a sideline profession for all but one of us) but that I hadn't met before. All were men. We stood around chatting and freezing our butts off for several hours just shooting the breeze. When we were down to three, one of the guys asked me if I had a business card. I produced 2 (sorry no singledivers ones yet and this guy's a diver!!) and handed them over. He then gave me one but first wrote his cell # on the back. He didn't give anyone else his card and I didn't either.
So, is this clue/sign? Something more blatant would be better for me!!
Diverlady
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#5
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:10 AM
UncleWas: Welcome and please post an intro as people will turn this thread into one trying to welcome you!!! LOL!!!I too could use some help with approaching/contacting men.
So here's your chance to tell me what to do. I was working on Saturday with a few people in the same profession (a sideline profession for all but one of us) but that I hadn't met before. All were men. We stood around chatting and freezing our butts off for several hours just shooting the breeze. When we were down to three, one of the guys asked me if I had a business card. I produced 2 (sorry no singledivers ones yet and this guy's a diver!!) and handed them over. He then gave me one but first wrote his cell # on the back. He didn't give anyone else his card and I didn't either.
So, is this clue/sign? Something more blatant would be better for me!!
Diverlady
BTW - welcome to SD unclewas!! In case you haven't figured it out, I'm CanadianDiverlady!
DiverLady: Yes it was a clue...now to see if he contacts you to let you know he was interested. If you are REALLY interested and he doesn't contact you...come up with some reason to email him and say you enjoyed meeting him and you thought he might be interested in 'abc event' or 'xyz article' etc. Basic networking skills for work just applied to a different subject matter.
NYCamico:
I was wondering how most men feel about this- if we made eye contact in a public place how would you feel if I walked over and said "Hi, do we know each other?"
I have had the same opportunity and I ususally wait to see if the guy will make the first move! I still continue to make eye contact with them and if they seem responsive then I'll walk over and say...I hope you weren't uncomfortable about me 'staring' at you but you look so familiar...where are you from?" Same idea just more comfortable for me to say. Plus it leads into more conversation if they are interested.
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#6
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:13 AM
I think most men would be flattered to have a woman aproach them,most are full of the same doubts you are feeling.
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#7
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:17 AM
Let the waiting game begin!DiverLady: Yes it was a clue...now to see if he contacts you to let you know he was interested. If you are REALLY interested and he doesn't contact you...come up with some reason to email him and say you enjoyed meeting him and you thought he might be interested in 'abc event' or 'xyz article' etc. Basic networking skills for work just applied to a different subject matter.
DL
What do you mean "it doesn't come in PINK"?!?!
#8
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:27 AM
what if the hokey pokey really IS what it's all about?
#9
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:41 AM
I agree with not using a catchy line. I think an honest question or comment is much more polite.lt seems a lot of people think some catchy line is needed to start a conversation. All one has to do is go up and say something like "hows your day been so far" or something like that....this isn't rocket science, people.
DL
What do you mean "it doesn't come in PINK"?!?!
#10
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:44 AM
Go for it, but don't ask if you've met before unless you really believe that to be the case. Don't start out with a deception. He'll be flattered even if he's not interested. Look at it this way, you might meet an interesting person, you might develop a great relationship, but in the worst case you'll have made someone feel good about himself.
Diverlady,
He's interested. You can play the waiting game, but if you're interested you should feel free to call him. You have his cell number for a reason.
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#11
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:51 AM
"Hi ..I saw you standing here and you looked like an interesting person I would like to meet."
I doubt very seriously that you would ever get shot down a fraction of the times men get shot down. And, when you are old as me.....you got shot wounds all over the place!!!
If you want to practice....I will be glad to give you my address.
rich
#12
Posted 10 May 2004 - 09:55 AM
Yeah, but we work in the same field so the speak so that could also be the reason for the c-#.Diverlady,
He's interested. You can play the waiting game, but if you're interested you should feel free to call him. You have his cell number for a reason.
DL
What do you mean "it doesn't come in PINK"?!?!
#13
Posted 10 May 2004 - 10:02 AM
Yeah, but we work in the same field .......... so that could also be the reason for the c-#.
True, not likely, but possible. If you're interested, you should still call.
DSSW,
WWW™
#14
Posted 10 May 2004 - 10:08 AM
I did mention the proper use of diving fins right?
Seriously, my favorite line is "Hello". It is simple and to the point. Normally it is good for a few lines of conversation and is useable by man and woman, LOL.
My problem with cells (which Walter will attest to) is that I am talkative. If I meet another talkative lady, I don't call often because trying to get off the phone is like "Well, we really should wrap this up, so am letting you go...", followed by "By the way"...twenty minutes later "We really should be going now, one last point"... twenty minutes later (Well you get the idea). I deal with two ladies like that now and a third that is borderline. And I don't even date any of them. :dltears:
BTW, ladies, you have the same rights as the men. Go ahead and open the conversation. If there is harm in that, than you don't want that guy anyways.
Edited by Diverbrian, 10 May 2004 - 10:10 AM.
#15
Posted 10 May 2004 - 10:37 AM
As others have said, don't start off with false statements, or false hopes and you can't be disappointed
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