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Can you really go on a trip with single people?

Started by WreckWench , Oct 15 2005 09:32 AM

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#1 WreckWench

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Posted 15 October 2005 - 09:32 AM

"Are you really going on a trip with all those single people?"


Does your non-diving SO worry about you joining a group called "SingleDivers"? Will they really let you go on a trip with all those 'single' people?

I know MANY of our non-diving SO's worry about these things as I've spoken with MANY of them on the phone about it.

How do you handle these questions? And do you need my telephone number so that they can talk to me??? :helpsmily:

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Posted 15 October 2005 - 01:27 PM

If the man was worried he would never say it out loud but I do think that when I finally get to go on a trip with you guys he will feel pretty good about it now that he had a chance to meet some of ya'll. If he behaves he can come with me on some of the trips!
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Posted 15 October 2005 - 03:48 PM

All I know is that I had a great time in Grenada. Everyone there knew I have a BF and everyone respected that. Others were married and others (Doug) were soon to be engaged. I think everyone had a great time no matter what his/her relationship status was and everyone left friends!
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Posted 15 October 2005 - 09:33 PM

My last buddy was the closest to my diving style that I have ever found. He was married and it didn't matter in the least. He wife doesn't dive and wasn't there, but they go on several cruises together. He was a very nice man and I hope I can dive with him again someday. I hope I am as fortunate on the next singles dive trip I take to find a good buddy, Married, single, male, or female.
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Posted 16 October 2005 - 09:08 AM

Not having gone on one yet not sure but i think going on vaction alone would be a bigger deal weather it was here or elsewhere
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Posted 17 October 2005 - 07:45 PM

For us, trust is a very strong part of our relationship. For awhile, I was in the Navy, and we spent many months apart with plenty of temptations, so we're way past the green monster.

She's been very encouraging when I'm able to spend long weekends on business trips to take advantage of being somewhere dive-able Haven't tried a totally dive vacation trip solo yet - she's happy to go along, although I think she feels kinda left out of the underwater action.

I think we'll probably come up with some kind of quid pro quo, I get a dive trip, then I take her somewhere of her choosing. We haven't talked about a solo vacation trip for her - but that might be another way to make up for my trips. Of course, the whole idea of being married is to have a life buddy, so I think it will be a challenge to find ways to stay together, while enjoying different activities.

What might be an idea would combine a trip with daytime activities to complement the diving. That way the SO's could have something planned to occupy their time. Everyone could regroup for dinner - nightly debauchery etc.

To us, it would not be a question of fidelity or jealousy, just equality.

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Posted 17 October 2005 - 10:18 PM

I'm single and I could go on a singles trip with no problem. Why? Because I respect women and do not view them simply as sex objects (unless they're willing).

Seriously, even when I've had a non-diving SO there wasn't an issue with my taking trips that might involve contact with single ladies (or married ones that didn't exactly respect their vows). Trust is the reason. I believe in trust and honesty, and would not do something that would derail my SO's trust.

Of course I currently have no SO, so I don't have to worry. However any married ladies are safe... I respect their relationships and would never put them in a situation where they would have to violate their SO's trust (well, unless I thought we could get away with it). Seriously, I don't. I have had one long-term (20+ years) relationship with a married woman. Her husband knew from the very beginning... in fact, he instigated it. Unusual, but honest.
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Posted 18 October 2005 - 11:15 AM

I believe it's all about trust. If your SO trusts you then it's usually not a problem.

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Posted 18 October 2005 - 11:51 AM

do not view them simply as sex objects

Wait they're not?


J/K

It all boils down to trust. Whether or not there are people on a trip that are willing to ignore their vows if they are married, or have none because they are single, it takes two to tango. If your SO trusts you and has faith that you won't do anything to hurt them or your relationship there shouldn't be a problem.

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Posted 19 October 2005 - 07:17 AM

I believe it's all about trust. If your SO trusts you then it's usually not a problem.

That is so true....
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Posted 12 November 2005 - 07:16 AM

:cool2: when I had a non diving so I could not go anywhere because he it the type that feels repsonsible for me and does not want my life in anybody else hands male of female. I personally can diver with anyone the other posts were right its all about the R E S PE C T


I like diving with men because there automatically very protective.
and I feel safer.

but now my SO is certified and now he wants to go diving all the time.
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