My ex learned to dive, we went to Cozumel and a wee bit after we got back, walked out for other reasons mostly unknown to me at the time . . .
I dated with a very heavy priority of finding someone who wanted to share my dream of diving as a couple . . . (I have been certified since 1976 . . )
After about 8 years, met a wonderful lady, dated, and had repeated discussions on the subject . . . she thought it sounded fun, loved the water, wanted to do it, and so forth.
Absolutely nothing negative, no concerns, nothing . . . .
At the time, her work schedule and our financed didn't let her cert happen, so we married, me with the comfortable feeling that I found "the right one".
Late last month, she went to do the cert. Flew through the written perfectly. Did great in the pool (according to the instructor) but didn't get immediately comfortable
on the drills with mask off and regulator recovery/clearing . . . and bailed, 3 hours in . . . no attempt to work through it, nothing. Zip. Nada.
Despite the instructor telling her she was doing fine . . .
Hell, I can't recall *anyone* being particularly comfortable doing that at first . . . that's *WHY* you practice it . . . it just isn't that natural . . .
So, on May 19th, 2011, my dream was mortally wounded . . . . She says she will try it again in our pool and see if she can get past this, but I just can't hold
too much hope . . . emotionally, I crashed so hard when she bailed, I was almost non-functional for a week or so . . .
Not only did my dream die, but I realize that I made a very large mistake getting married first . . . it really does matter that much to me . . . .
So what do I do now? I'm in a situation I told myself I would *NOT* allow to happen . . . . but then again, here I am . . . .
Oh, and for why my SO doesn't dive, I really don't have an answer . . . . since there were zero real items that kept her from completing her cert other than
"Attitude" . . .
- Tim
Edited by tadawson, 12 June 2011 - 01:50 PM.