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#1 Dennis

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Posted 17 December 2005 - 08:37 AM

This one could go either here or in the Topics Related to Being Single, so I want everyone to answer if they choose to do so.


Ok, for you divorced people out there, this is not about old spouses.

This is about your old boyfriends or girlfriends. This thread is for all of you, single, married, whatever. I guess this could be a poll, but I want verbiage, not just votes.

Are you still friends?
Can you still be friends?
Do you even know where they are or what they are doing?
Do you still remember those relationships with a smile on your face?
Were they bad relationships?
How do you think they think of you?
Any other thoughts you would like to share?

This could be a fun thread.

So, how about me? I have had just two old girlfriends that really touched me in very special ways. Not that I didn’t have very strong feelings about other girls, I did. My very first real crush was on a girl that I met in 3rd grade and we still keep in touch. That girl was one of the most beautiful girls and now women I have ever known. She is a wonderful friend and I cherish our friendship very much.

But, I digress. Back to the two. The first one is really my first true love and we were together for a couple of years. We were together my senior year in high school and my first year of college. I was sure she would be the one I would marry and that was that. I was head over heals in love. She was going to college at the University of Florida and I was going to a Community College and working full time to save money to go to the University. Well, she decided she wanted to get married while we were in school. There was no way. I told here that as soon as I finished college and got a good engineering job, I would be ready, but I could barely afford to take care of myself. She would have lost her SS benefits from her father who had passed away, and we would have had to go it alone, paying for college for two of us and trying to live and go to school at the same time. Well, in less than 6 months, she was married. Not to me, but she was married. As hard as it was at the time, I thank God every day. I wound up with the best deal in life. She is now a very good friend and we keep in touch. She has divorced the first guy and has married a really nice guy that loves her very much. I like him. I still care for this lady and I am sure she still cares for me, but I am now with the absolute true love of my life.

The second one. This lady was a friend and was going to college at the community college I was at after my break up with the lady above. We hit it off very nicely and had a pretty steamy relationship for about a year. She was my first and although I loved her, I knew she was not my true love. She is married now, and I am sure she has kids, but I have not kept up with her. I think Walter keeps in touch because they were friends. I have very fond memories of our relationship. I would like to see her again and let her know that she was a very important part of making me who I am today. Maybe one day.

Ok, those stories are way too short to tell everything, but should maybe give you an idea of where I am going with this thread.
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#2 drbill

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Posted 17 December 2005 - 10:21 AM

I still know where most of the women I've been with over the last say 40 years are. With almost all of them I've remained friends. I have lost contact with a few.

One rents a room from me and has been my housemate (sans benefits, we're like brother and sister) for 5+ years. One I used to stay with all the time when I went to the mainland... at least until she moved an hour away from the boat terminal. Another passed away after we broke up. I'm not entirely sure where she is now since she was "naughty" AND "nice."

Edited by drbill, 23 December 2005 - 12:23 PM.


#3 annasea

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Posted 23 December 2005 - 11:45 AM

This is about your old boyfriends or girlfriends.

I'm surprised due to the marital status of most SD members that this thread hasn't garnered more responses. Perhaps the old adage applies...

"If you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all."

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#4 drbill

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Posted 23 December 2005 - 12:24 PM

"If you can't say something nice about someone, don't say anything at all."


Hmmm... I can't think of any former GF I couldn't say something "nice" about (as well as something "naughty," but I'm a gentleman and we don't tell... except thru PM's! Sigh).

#5 scubanick

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 12:46 PM

well i have 2 that i pretend i didn't even date.....dont wanna know much about them
bad relationships.. yes..cheaters

and 1 in another state now that i still keep in touch with we are still friends
we had good relationship i was young though and wanted something different
i still am young though hah she thinks of me..hmm she just knows me to well
not that is a bad thing... we just fit better as friends


and 1 (the last one) that i want to at least be friends
but she kinda being stuck up here lately
i thought we would have went far together
but she had other plans apparently
bad relationship..i didn't think so...i really cared for this girl
not that i didn't with the other one(i dont count the other 2 i spoke of)
she was just awesome

now single again

#6 Mitch0129

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 01:27 PM

Myself, I always make it a point to try and remain friends with a former girlfriend. Those whom I still have contact with, that is always the case. Most of the time, though, it always works out, at least for me, that we just go our separate ways and more than likely never see or talk to each other again except for a chance meeting at a restaurant or the grocery store.

To me, getting and staying upset over a relationship that went bad is not worth the energy wasted. You get over it and you move on, after all, you never know when and where that special one you have hoped for will turn up.
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Posted 26 December 2005 - 01:31 PM

It helps to remain friends if you actually developed a friendship in the first place. Seems kinda silly but once the chemisty has waned a bit...sometimes you find that you never built the relationship on real friendship in the first place...hence being hard to *remain or end up friends*. :birthday:

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 01:43 PM

It helps to remain friends if you actually developed a friendship in the first place. Seems kinda silly but once the chemisty has waned a bit...sometimes you find that you never built the relationship on real friendship in the first place...hence being hard to *remain or end up friends*.


Exactly. That's why I prefer to see relationships develop out of friendships in the first place. If you genuinely LIKE one another before those wonderful erotic thoughts start entering your mind, you're much more likely to continue on as friends IF the spark is extinguished.

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 02:30 PM

It helps to remain friends if you actually developed a friendship in the first place. Seems kinda silly but once the chemisty has waned a bit...sometimes you find that you never built the relationship on real friendship in the first place...hence being hard to *remain or end up friends*.


Exactly. That's why I prefer to see relationships develop out of friendships in the first place. If you genuinely LIKE one another before those wonderful erotic thoughts start entering your mind, you're much more likely to continue on as friends IF the spark is extinguished.



I agree...seems that most (NOT all) men want sometype of instant connection which I believe is more an instant sexual attraction than anything else....Can't judge a book by its cover
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Posted 26 December 2005 - 03:34 PM

Who can even remember them all? :birthday:

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 05:16 PM

Who can even remember them all? :birthday:



Hey that's a blonde's line!!! :cool2:

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Posted 26 December 2005 - 05:26 PM

The girlfriends I remember, it's an ex-wife I'm blocking out :birthday:
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Posted 26 December 2005 - 05:36 PM

The girlfriends I remember, it's an ex-wife I'm blocking out :birthday:


Sorry to hear it, Ray. My ex-wife is a wonderful woman. The only thing wrong with her is she lost her good taste.
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Posted 26 December 2005 - 06:20 PM

Hey that's a blonde's line!!! :-D


I guess I'm a blonde at heart. :usflag:

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Posted 30 December 2005 - 12:05 AM

And I thought "We can still be friends" was one of the worst things you could hear from someone you were dating. :banghead: As for old girl friends those who I dated casually I still am friends with a couple of them and still see them as friends ocassionally. The one who I thought was "it" I have not seen or heard from in 20 or more years. Go figure. I guess the heart is not always right, but as Garth Brooks once said "Thank God for Un-answered Prayers"




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