OK, here is the deal and anyone, man or woman, denies it, they are either lying to themselves or to us. Men, you all know if you have seen a woman naked, you want to see them all naked. And men, you know if you had sex with one of them, you are addicted and want to have sex with all of them.
Each of us is different; and because you think and do the things you do does not mean that the rest of us do. I do not wish to see all men naked; in fact, there are few I think of in that way. Simply because I have had sex in my lifetime does not mean I wish to have sex with every man I meet. Ok...so I'm a woman. Maybe you think we're wired so different...we are - you and I; but that does not mean that all men think the way you do or that all women think the way I do.
Now, ok, I admit there are those that we find just plain ole ugly and unattractive and we cannot even get ourselves to think of being with them horizontally but even with those, there comes that day when we have had too much grapejuice or find ourselves in that weird state of mind and presto, we do something regrettable.
In your previous paragraph you referred to addiction....
Sure men and women can be roommates and it is possible, albeit not probable, they may never be inclinded to do the deed but that is unrealistic. Yea, I know men and women are roommates lots of times but still, it aint natural and it is more than likely it wont be long lasting.
You're saying it's not natural for men and women to be friends, to care about each other in a way that reaches far beyond sex, to be able to look past it to see the people inside the bodies? You think that if there is such a relationship that it wouldn't last? I say this...I would roommate (as in share a home and separate bedrooms) with a man a lot quicker than I would another woman. Not because of sex, but because of a lack of competition, because he wouldn't want to borrow my favorite blouse, because we could exchange chores, because he could tell me where it is I'm screwing up that I didn't get a second date, because just maybe growing up with three brothers I just find it easier to get along with men. My longest lasting friendships...men! Men that I have slept in the same bed with and never considered anything other than simply keeping warm, men that I have camped out with, men that never had any other interest in me aside from being a friend.
However, after you do the roommate, then it is possible to become only platonic friends. You realize your relationship isnt romantic and a friendship can develop because then and only then can you both permanently find the state of mind where you only communicate via the mind, not body expressions, drool control and desire for the unknown. SO do the roommate, explain it to the potential girlfriend that you have no interest because you sampled the goods and the jealousy will end because surely she will understand that, right?
"Do" the roommate? What if the roommate "does" you? Have you ever thought it might be more considerate of the other person's feelings to determine whether or not there is a tiny possibility of something in the future before you dip your wick? And seriously, do you really think that most women would accept the lame story that you've already sampled and that makes everything ok?
A girlfriend/boyfriend being jealous because of opposite sex roommates? Jealousy aint pretty and isnt a good quality. If someone you have not even dated yet is already expressing hints of jealousy then you need to steer clear because the future is going to hold a lot of heartache. (Unless she is really fine, I mean bite your lip fine, then ok, go out with her, have sex beyond exhaustion then dump her pronto)
That's right...dip it while you can! My goodness! If she's not right for you do you truly have to have that sample before you discard her like a dirty shirt? So you'd smile in her face, get in her pants and then be on your way?
A very old friend of mine once told me "Men are good for what they're good for." She had been raped, beaten, cheated on and lied to by men. She hates them, but surrounds herself with them solely for the purpose of sucking anything she can from them - much like you're advising other men to do to women. She's an old friend, but not one I enjoy spending my time with anymore - I don't ever want to be like that.
While my opinion is only mine, in my opinion what you're advising is a whole lot worse than jealousy because your act is deliberate and jealousy is a character flaw that many people strive to overcome.
Ya know, it is probably a very good policy to exclude dating someone who has an opposite sex roommate. I wouldnt adopt that policy, I am not excluding anyone, I prefer chancing the heartache, makes life more of a challenge, IYKWIM.
"Chancing a heartache" and "more of a challenge" don't even belong in the same sentence. While it might be flattering to think that someone considers me to be one of his life's challenges, it's also very insulting that someone would be interested in me for the challenge. Really...who would be chancing the heartache in that scenario?
Keep on swimming, swimming, swimming...
