why is it so hard
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Talos
, Jun 25 2005 06:43 AM
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Talos
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 06:43 AM
why is it so hard to get someone OUT of your mind?
as a matter of fact I am out of my mind. It is dark and scary in there.
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 06:49 AM
Because they arent ment to be. Years can made it fade somewhat, but it never fully goes away.
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 11:10 AM
Hell, I even wrote a full-length stage play about the breakup with one of my Ex's, and I still think of her often. Not necessarily fondly, but I think of the relationship, and, mostly, how it ended.why is it so hard to get someone OUT of your mind?
Come to think of it, I may write one about the latest one.
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 11:19 AM
why is it so hard to get someone OUT of your mind? banghead.gif
Just try a few gallons of Monopolova directed at the hippocampus, matey.
Works wonders. Just do it at home and not in a bar. Or you might end up with some new bad memories.
I've pretty much forgotten about the Evil One, except when she calls me up and tells me about her latest (imaginary) illness.
The latest--"I'm in Dallas, I finally got my kidney transplant." Jeez..... But it's just a feeling of disgust now, not affection.
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 11:34 AM
Talos,why is it so hard to get someone OUT of your mind?
Sorry to read about someone causing you to bang your head against the wall. Need an aspirin yet?!
I suppose it depends on what happened. I'm guessing by your apparent frustration that she decided to end it rather than you?
It's much easier to forget about someone when you are the one who decides to move on. If you're the one left behind, it obviously wasn't by choice -- hence, the difficulties in removing that person from your thoughts; especially if there's no reason provided, I've found.
Sadly, we've pretty much all been there. Take comfort in our numbers!
See it this way: Her loss will be someone else's gain! And yours as well!
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 03:14 PM
I think men tend to dwell more on the one's that got away also or maybe that's just me.
Women tend to over analyze the one's they keep
Women tend to over analyze the one's they keep
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Posted 25 June 2005 - 06:14 PM
This is one of the benefits of age... it is much easier to forgive (and FORGET). Of course we are aided by that wonder of wonders, Old Timer's disease. In fact I don't even remember dating anyone in my entire life.
Seriously, yes the memory can be painful especially if it was not a mutual break-up (and sometimes even when it is). I try my best to remember all the great things about being with that person (although I don't forget the things that caused the breakup, at least not enbough so I'd make the same mistake twice).
Individuals are different, and even if they are wildly compatible when they meet, they can grow apart over time. This does not mean that either one is "bad," just that compatibility becomes an issue. I've had this happen with women I've truly loved as human beings, but have realized that our directions were diverging so much that living together was made more difficult.
And, of course, one could look at the biology of attraction and commitment. If one does, they might be amazed that people stay together at all.
Seriously, yes the memory can be painful especially if it was not a mutual break-up (and sometimes even when it is). I try my best to remember all the great things about being with that person (although I don't forget the things that caused the breakup, at least not enbough so I'd make the same mistake twice).
Individuals are different, and even if they are wildly compatible when they meet, they can grow apart over time. This does not mean that either one is "bad," just that compatibility becomes an issue. I've had this happen with women I've truly loved as human beings, but have realized that our directions were diverging so much that living together was made more difficult.
And, of course, one could look at the biology of attraction and commitment. If one does, they might be amazed that people stay together at all.
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