I actually have experience here....I was actually about to move to TX this past January for a girl who lives in a small town about 2.5 hours southwest of Dallas. We met through my marathoning group at a race a couple of years ago. Shortly after, we starting e-mailing, chatting online, talking on the phone...and eventually flying to see each other regularly. Problem was, that she was still going through a divorce (although she'd been seperated for awhile when we first met). Her divorce was official last May, and we got even more serious....anyway, long story short....I was ready to move in January. I had a new job lined up in Fort Worth area (that I had accepted) and was about to quit my current job, when she decided she wasn't ready for me to move afterall. Fair enough - better to tell me before I quit my job and move from Michigan to Texas!! I had to tell the new company I couldn't take the job that I'd already acceptted...but at least I still had my job here. There's a lot more to that story, as you can imagine....
So...would I be willing to move? Absolutely - just make sure both of you are absolutely ready for it!! (oops...see that you already made a decision). Should've read the entire thread. Sorry.
Wow...
Don't apologize; our author is not the only person ever faced with this dilemma and I'm sure he wouldn't mind that someone else may have benefited from your comments.
I really have to hand it to your sweetheart though. It takes a lot of courage to tell someone that you may have made a mistake and feel you need to back off. She was considerate enough to do that before you rearranged your entire life with no means of going back.
I, on the other hand, am stuck here in Texas (though I'd have chosen to stay anyway). I moved from California in 2000 about 2 hrs east of Dallas.
I married the guy one year before moving with the intent of moving here. He stayed with me in California for one year while I sold my home and he was miserable the entire time; but as soon as we reached Texas it was like a complete metamorphisis - his true self emerged in a big way. It's now 2006 and I'm starting to get back on my feet finally.
But the question begs..."would you do it again?"
Yes...under the right circumstances...I would. It would require a lot of courage, but for love....I would - again.
Edited by Twinklez, 07 April 2006 - 12:05 AM.
