"Out of your league"

I am curious to find out how many people believe that others are possibly "Out of their league."

I have heard this said time and time again and wondered whether or not this is based a materialistic gains or is it more pointed towards the "status" you have in life.

I'm not sure what it means but when a guy tells me that he is 'out of my league' it is a warning sign to me that he is not right for me. If you don't think you are good enough for someone then you'll never be good enough and you'll instinctively try to make the relationship fail or will feel insecure that you'll never measure up. So if someone tells you that...RUN!!! It is a warning sign that they are not right for you.

"relationship fail or will feel insecure that you'll never measure up. So if someone tells you that...RUN!!! "

I agree, and it can also go for many levels, of looks, finance, reputation.

I'm in a league of my own.

I'm in a league of my own.

You sure are!

I've had that thought a few times, once when I spent a lot on a date only to find she had spent more on the purse for the date. To keep her happy I would need to give up diving and that isn't going to happen!
A side bar on this, you know how they say to look at the mother to see what she will look like later, I saw her mother last week, boy was I lucky that didn't go anywhere!
The only other time was when I had a huge crush on a Russian chic but what made her "out of my league" was the 29 years between us.

Edited by Latitude Adjustment, 22 February 2006 - 12:32 PM.

I am curious to find out how many people believe that others are possibly "Out of their league."

I have heard this said time and time again and wondered whether or not this is based a materialistic gains or is it more pointed towards the "status" you have in life.

I have come to the conclusion that “out of my league” means that a woman is intelligent, witty, charming, has manners and grace, better looking than Frankenstein, sentient, under 96 years of age, still breathing. (Anyone see a trend here?) In short, women are out of my league.

Kidding aside, I interpret “out of my league” to me someone who would not be compatible with me for any number of reasons. Like she would want to go to every opera in the state. Sorry Pirates of Penzance ruined me for opera. Or she is too intellectual to be able to, or want to talk on my level. Can not stand the water, diving, being outdoors.

The general concept of “out of your league” usually refers to a woman who “is so pretty she can have her pick of men” type of thing. Am I on the edge here or what? I know this will get someone's attention, for which I will probably pay dearly. But I speak of the stereotyping.

It would be like my trying to win the heart of Reba McEntire . “What would I have to offer her, that she does not already have? In short “out of your league” generally refers to someone with whom you have little chance.

My 2¢

My take is that people who claim that someone is "out of their league" simply aren't willing to try or step outside their comfort zone to experience new things. Heck, they may even enjoy trying different things with a new person. That saying always hits me as an excuse for not be willing to take a risk and it is one that I don't respect.

If after trying, someone decides that the other person is not compatable, that is totally different but to say that person is "out of his/her league" without giving it a try, well, I think I have said all I have to say on this...

Well the reason I asked is because I was told that someone I have been hanging out with and had gone on a date with was out of my league. I know what I thought that statement was saying but I wanted other opinions on it. She does test my boundries but I welcome the change.

Well the reason I asked is because I was told that someone I have been hanging out with and had gone on a date with was out of my league. I know what I thought that statement was saying but I wanted other opinions on it. She does test my boundries but I welcome the change.

All I can say is that is an absolutely unfair statement for someone to make. Essentially that person is saying that you are not "good enough" for this girl and, we all know that this is for you and this girl to decide, not others. IMO, you should call this person on telling you this because it is simply not a true or fair statement for anyone to say.

Unfortunately, I have a bad habit of deciding people are "out of my league" without even trying. At the same time, when I tried a dating thing out here, I felt that I was way out of the league of all the guys she kept trying to match me with. In other words, I felt that if I couldn't do better than these guys, I was better off spending the rest of my life single.

Well the reason I asked is because I was told that someone I have been hanging out with and had gone on a date with was out of my league. I know what I thought that statement was saying but I wanted other opinions on it. She does test my boundries but I welcome the change.

All I can say is that is an absolutely unfair statement for someone to make. Essentially that person is saying that you are not "good enough" for this girl and, we all know that this is for you and this girl to decide, not others. IMO, you should call this person on telling you this because it is simply not a true or fair statement for anyone to say.

Vesspar CMT489 is absolutely right...if a guy told you this girl was out of your league then he is probably jealous. If a girl told you then she is making assumptions about the other girl and may or may not be right. The only person that can decide if they are out of your league is YOU and the GIRL you like.

If you feel you can't measure up to her then you probably can't. If you feel that she is too good for you or too wealthy or basically unattainable...then she probably is. Why? Because you FEEL that way. Not because you are but because you FEEL that way and THINK that and ultimately it will be self fulfilling prophetsy. (Can't spell but you know what I mean.)

So only you can decide so disregard the other person's opinion...unless that person is the girl in question. And then you need to have an open talk with her as to why she feels that way!

If you feel you can't measure up to her then you probably can't. If you feel that she is too good for you or too wealthy or basically unattainable...then she probably is. Why? Because you FEEL that way. Not because you are but because you FEEL that way and THINK that and ultimately it will be self fulfilling prophetsy. (Can't spell but you know what I mean.)

Agree 100% with this. If you feel you aren't good enough, you won't be good enough, and will possibly really miss out.

Well....... maybe she's not good enough for Vessper??

Well....... maybe she's not good enough for Vessper??

Agreed. He's kind of got a little bit of that Brad Pitt thang going for him. There's got to be ladies in their 20s and 30s interested in that.

"relationship fail or will feel insecure that you'll never measure up. So if someone tells you that...RUN!!! "

I agree, and it can also go for many levels, of looks, finance, reputation.

You're right on...often it has to do with looks..and I am often right...we are not in each other's league...not that one is better or worse but certainly different...since I am a jeans, sweats, go to a jazz bar for the singer not the crowd type girl ( and really do enjoy working in the yard) I am not in the same league, game etc. as someone who wants to dress in the evening for dinner, gets up on Sat. morning and "dresses for the day...etc.. nor do I want to be in that league..no worse no better...just different.


OOOOPPPSSS>>.grabbed the wrong quote still working on it.

Edited by finley, 22 February 2006 - 01:58 PM.