Interpretation please!
#1
Posted 07 November 2006 - 07:48 PM
beachbunny@singledivers.com
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"
Ghandi
#2
Posted 07 November 2006 - 08:11 PM
The fact is, Christy, that you're a very attractive lady, and from what I can see on the board, you're very personable. Therefore, he may have felt that a lot of guys would like to have been in his place, and that some of them were trying to move in.
That said, he should have spoken with you about it, and expressed his concern that way.
Rick
Can't you feel 'em circlin', honey
Can't you feel 'em swimmin' around
You got fins to the left, fins to the right
--Jimmy Buffett
#3
Posted 07 November 2006 - 10:48 PM
and they think I'm married to my roommate because we live together...
I hate jealousy and insecurity. The moment that stuff pops up I explain the situation if it's not good enough for them I ditch 'em. Simple as pie. If you can't trust me from the begining then you won't trust me in the end.
Some people refuse to believe men and women can be friends without having the sex agenda on their mind.
#4
Posted 08 November 2006 - 06:48 AM
By all that is wet, I do hereby swear, (politely), and attest, upon pain of never diving again, (real or imagined), that I understand and affirm, that I agree to the above.
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#5
Posted 08 November 2006 - 08:32 AM
#6
Posted 08 November 2006 - 09:38 AM
Dennis
"Suppose you were an idiot ... And suppose you were a member of Congress ... But I repeat myself." --Mark Twain
#7
Posted 08 November 2006 - 06:04 PM
NEXT!
"Love is blind but lust likes lacy panties" -- SanDiegoCarol
"If you're gonna be dumb, you'd better be tough." -- Phillip Manor
"If I know the answer I'll tell you the answer, and if I don't I'll just respond cleverly." -- Donald Rumsfeld
#8
Posted 08 November 2006 - 09:20 PM
I've had women refuse to date me because I rent a room to a woman I dated 20 years ago but have had nothing other than friendship with for the last 18 years. We're like brother and sister.
With the other women it was good to learn of their insecurities before we actually started dating. I am a man of my word, and if a woman refuses to trust me without any evidence to the contrary, she is not a woman I want to be with anyway.
#9
Posted 08 November 2006 - 10:11 PM
Historicly it doesn't work! My ex-wife always said I didn't need to worry about her male friends and I trusted her right up till she had an affair with one
I'm curious LA, has this jaded you towards dating women with male friends? Still trying to understand the mindset of a guy! And y'all say that women are hard to understand!
beachbunny@singledivers.com
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"
Ghandi
#10
Posted 08 November 2006 - 10:15 PM
Just based on the info that you supplied, I would venture a guess that he was a bit nervous about your male friends because you hadn't been dating for a long time. His insecurity may have been based on that. The insecurity is not just a male phenomena; my ex-fiance was constantly jealous and insecure about my closeness to my family and my dive buddies, even though they fully accepted her.
The fact is, Christy, that you're a very attractive lady, and from what I can see on the board, you're very personable. Therefore, he may have felt that a lot of guys would like to have been in his place, and that some of them were trying to move in.
That said, he should have spoken with you about it, and expressed his concern that way.
Rick
Can't you feel 'em circlin', honey
Can't you feel 'em swimmin' around
You got fins to the left, fins to the right
--Jimmy Buffett
Thank you Rick!! I know jealousy goes both ways, I am just not that type of girl. And he would have been right to assume there are other guys who wanted to be in his place BUT they are not the guys I hang out with and I chose to be with HIM...not one of the other Joes asking me out! Ah well! Such is life!
beachbunny@singledivers.com
"Be the change you wish to see in the world"
Ghandi
#11
Posted 09 November 2006 - 08:02 AM
Is there any hope for opposite sex friendships NOT interferring with your love life??
Yeah date me ... As I said I hate jealousy I consider it a wasted emotion. If they're going to cheat on me they're going to cheat on me... Get it done and get over it so I can
Interestlingly enough I've had an ex break up with me because I was NOT jealous... "If you cared at all about me you'd be jealous and not allow me to see my friends." HUH?
This is a very tricky issue. It goes back to finding someone who's right for you and the way you want to run your life... don't settle for someone because he's been hurt in the past... let him deal with it and get back to you when he has...
#12
Posted 09 November 2006 - 12:39 PM
Dude ... that's f-ed up!Interestlingly enough I've had an ex break up with me because I was NOT jealous... "If you cared at all about me you'd be jealous and not allow me to see my friends." HUH?
WARNING AND GENERAL DISCLAIMER: Gross sexist generalization follows. As it is a generalization it is meant to represent the majority of cases and does not intend to encompass each individual case. No actual daters were harmed in the forming of this opinion and actual mileage may vary.
Christy, guys' mindsets are pretty easy to understand. When we're hungry, we say "I'm hungry." When we're tired, we say "I'm tired." When we mean 'no' we say "no;" when we mean 'yes' we say "yes." We don't ask trick questions and we won't waste the emotional energy on trying to trip you up. We're usually glad to see you unless you make yourselves a PITA, in which case we will avoid you. We're really not known for hidden meanings, no matter how much women wish to find them. We have simple needs: air (includes airfills), water, food, sex, ESPN. Everything beyond that is gravy.
"Love is blind but lust likes lacy panties" -- SanDiegoCarol
"If you're gonna be dumb, you'd better be tough." -- Phillip Manor
"If I know the answer I'll tell you the answer, and if I don't I'll just respond cleverly." -- Donald Rumsfeld
#13
Posted 09 November 2006 - 09:32 PM
We tend to use our own frame of reference to anticipate the potential actions of other people. Not always, but often. So if he thinks you might be fiddling around with your male buddies, you might want to have a look at his female friends and coworkers; or better yet, walk on.
#14
Posted 09 November 2006 - 09:38 PM
WARNING AND GENERAL DISCLAIMER: Gross sexist generalization follows. As it is a generalization it is meant to represent the majority of cases and does not intend to encompass each individual case. No actual daters were harmed in the forming of this opinion and actual mileage may vary.
Christy, guys' mindsets are pretty easy to understand. When we're hungry, we say "I'm hungry." When we're tired, we say "I'm tired." When we mean 'no' we say "no;" when we mean 'yes' we say "yes." We don't ask trick questions and we won't waste the emotional energy on trying to trip you up. We're usually glad to see you unless you make yourselves a PITA, in which case we will avoid you. We're really not known for hidden meanings, no matter how much women wish to find them. We have simple needs: air (includes airfills), water, food, sex, ESPN. Everything beyond that is gravy.
Gary: “Fine, I’ll help you do the damn dishes.”
Brooke: “That’s not what I want. I want you to want to do the dishes.”
Gary: “Why would I want to do dishes?”
#15
Posted 10 November 2006 - 10:40 AM
"Love is blind but lust likes lacy panties" -- SanDiegoCarol
"If you're gonna be dumb, you'd better be tough." -- Phillip Manor
"If I know the answer I'll tell you the answer, and if I don't I'll just respond cleverly." -- Donald Rumsfeld
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