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[Dejah]

I'll jump in on this one... I would say wait until your not just physically ready but more importantly emotionally ready. I say that because once you have intimate encounters with someone in a sexual sense emotions of both parties can sometimes change, unless your doing it more for just the physical attraction during a fling and can put the other aside... If your serious about the other person and your feelings then waiting can certainly be worth it..


Dejah

[PSDIVER]

I'll jump in on this one... I would say wait until your not just physically ready but more importantly emotionally ready. I say that because once you have intimate encounters with someone in a sexual sense emotions of both parties can sometimes change, unless your doing it more for just the physical attraction during a fling and can put the other aside... If your serious about the other person and your feelings then waiting can certainly be worth it..


Dejah

Does anyone ever truely answer this? I guess my comment , which shouldn't mean absolutely anything to anyone, would be ...." if you had to ask...you answered yourself"

[mantarraya]

Yeah. He smelled kind of like my son's room when he leaves his dirty clothes all over the floor instead of putting them in the clothes hamper. Ewww. There's one guy I work with who smells the same way. Not really BO but an odor of dirty clothes.

Maybe he hadn't been diving in a long time??? Maybe he sleeps in his wetsuit (after peeing in it, of course)??? Other possibilities?

[jeff]

I'm eternally single and divorced, so don't listen to me. Trying to be christian, I've tried to wait til marriage, yeah that worked, seems women are alot more horney than I am. And they are all gone now. Do you want a "connection" with someone you don't truely know yet. Why rush everything, become friends and develope something strong and lasting. I love closeness and cuddling and kissing, but why does everything always run to the bed. Especially these days with all the std's in the nightly news looking for a quicky. guess I will never meet any nice girls here now, oops.

[finGrabber]

There are alot of times when it shouldn't be "run to bed" and I don't think there is anything wrong with cuddling, kissing, spending time together just watching TV

I don't think most people know each other for at least a year, if not longer. After about 6 months, then people start to drop their guard...after 1 or 1 and half years, you really start to see who they are instead of the person they want you to see

[scubagirl]

Dr. Bill I did mean sex but the latter is a must as well. I guess I can own up to doing several things. Waiting for a few dates to go by, doing it on the first date, or not doing it at all. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. But literature out there tends to move towards waiting at least six months.

[drbill]

Dr. Bill I did mean sex but the latter is a must as well. I guess I can own up to doing several things. Waiting for a few dates to go by, doing it on the first date, or not doing it at all. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. But literature out there tends to move towards waiting at least six months.

Yikes... if I meet a "right" woman tomorrow, I won't get no satisfaction until May? I may be dead by then. Just teasing ya!

I threw real intimacy into the mix because I think sex is not necessarily the most intimate thing two people do with one another. In fact it often focuses each individual on their own pleasure. However, once two people are really intimate with one another (as in friendships that evolve into romantic relationships), sex can be very intimate (but I call it making love at that point).

Edited by drbill, 29 November 2006 - 10:38 AM.

[scubagirl]

Dr. Bill I did mean sex but the latter is a must as well. I guess I can own up to doing several things. Waiting for a few dates to go by, doing it on the first date, or not doing it at all. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. But literature out there tends to move towards waiting at least six months.

Yikes... if I meet a "right" woman tomorrow, I won't get no satisfaction until May? I may be dead by then. Just teasing ya!

EXACTLY!!! Six months.....no way Jose!!!! LOL!

[drbill]

PS- When you say intimate, are you referring to sex... or something truly intimate like honest, open communication?

I reckon it's the former but how nice to suggest the latter. Especially coming from a man.

Ah, how sweet of you, Caetllonn... especially after I've tried to seduce you (unsuccessfully) for so long!

When it comes down to what I really look for in a woman (other than great legs), the kind of intimacy I seek is that which follows (and preceeds) the other type. Lack of sex I can deal with... it is the cuddling, kissing and communicating I really miss.

[jextract]

PS- When you say intimate, are you referring to sex... or something truly intimate like honest, open communication?

I reckon it's the former but how nice to suggest the latter. Especially coming from a man.

Criminy, Dr. B ... you're gonna ruin it for the rest of us. We've spent all these years trying to convince the other half that we are genetically incapable of that!

I do agree that all good relationships are based on honesty; and once you can fake that the rest is easy!

[drbill]

Criminy, Dr. B ... you're gonna ruin it for the rest of us. We've spent all these years trying to convince the other half that we are genetically incapable of that!

Hey, Jamie... what can I say? I'm a mutant!

[Blackhawk]

On the first date at in open public, for example middle of the mall, or football game, or at a restraunt.

Sorry just saw this thread and had to post a smart allic comment because I came REALLY close to slapping some highschool kids last night

Okay this may be a little too much for the forum but I have to ask this. You meet a guy/girl, you go on several dates. When do you decide to get intimate with them? Is it a personal thing? Is there a RULE out there I should know about?

[captsteve]

1) decide what you want out of the deal.... Is it a one night stand or somthing more or both. If your answer is definatly "somthing more", Then make him wait till you know one another. If you are happy go-lucky, then take your chance. Just be safe.

[netmage]

With the wisdom of Anthony DiNozzo - "If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got. "

[Brinybay]

... seems women are alot more horney than I am. And they are all gone now. ...

Really? Do you know where they went?