I can see dive ops having a no deco policy if they don't want to sit on a site for the extra time those dives require and most others are NDL profiles. However unless you have to hang for 20 minutes or more longer than everyone else I see no reason to force that diver to sit out any dives if the SI says that they can get back in. Hell, for that matter you can violate your computer, hang, and still be out of the water before some other divers on the boat who don't trigger their computers.
See here's the problem.
Lets say I want to dive wreck XYZ on a charter. Most of the divers on the boat are diving XYZ to 60ft, and I am diving XYZ to 125ft but I am taking a 50% deco mix along. I intend to spend 20 minutes at 125ft. Now I will likely be back on the boat before the shallow divers, I will certainly have violated a recreational computer, but I will leave the water with less nitrogen loading than the divers diving shallow.
So Capt. Skippy examines my dive computer and says, "you're done for 24 hours"? I don't think so, and that's not a boat I would dive on.
I think it's imperative the divers dive within their training limits and the limits of safety. However, that line is quite variable based on diver education. And though some may not like to acknowledge it, there is diving beyond 60ft/55m and beyond 130ft. And some of it is really a lot of fun! I also don't think it's taboo to talk about diving beyond recreational limits in a forum of mostly recreational divers, because I would hope that discussion brings about some understanding of the very careful consideration that goes into making those dives.
One of the hardest things for me to do, is to go on just basic recreational dives with friends sometimes because they will want to do no planning and just fall in the water for an hour. Oddly, I'll do this with my tech buddies without problem because I KNOW they are going to multi-level, or build in stops during the dive. I did an 86 minute dive like this in December where the max depth was 100ft. I never even violated my recreational computer.