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[DandyDon]

I have wondered about this idea, and even opposed it at times. I wondered if the married person was really giving in to latent "wish I wasn't so tied down" feelings, was on the prowl, or whatever? I asked this question of a feller on another forum:

(1) You're wife wouldn't mind you going off to paradise with a group of singles, acting like singles often act when hundereds of miles from home?

(2) You'd rather go with Singles than a mixed group - from your LDS or local club?

The answer was so obvious that I never thought of it, and I don't think anyone ever explained it to me. I feel like someone just turned a light one for me.

  Sounds good to me. not a problem with the wife.

As for the mixed group the problem is exactly what you describe. {When the diving is over, the couples gather for dinner and activities, and the single guy becomes an outsider.} Although married, the trip ends up a group of couples and i'm the third wheel.

In my defense, I have not been married in decades, so I have only a vague memory of that experiment. But now that I see, heck yes - Single Marrieds are fine with me.

Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?

[hnladue]

Me thinks you have too much time on your hands and think too much!!!

Unmarried couples wouldn't be buddy-less then would they??? But nothing says they can't come on one of our trips!! Anything that fills the seats eh?

[DandyDon]

Me thinks you have too much time on your hands and think too much!!!

Unmarried couples wouldn't be buddy-less then would they??? But nothing says they can't come on one of our trips!! Anything that fills the seats eh?

Oh, this is something I've argued over - and now I feel badly that I may have not been polite enough to single-marrieds.

"Anything to fill a seat" is below this board, though, unless we sponsor a trip that the members don't support. :dltears:

[triggerfish]

i think 'anything to fill seats' does happen.

i have no problem with anyone coming on the trips

[KConner]

My experience with LDS trips, is that everyone has a buddy at the point that they sign up.

And I DEFINATELY notice that the couples do couple things when not diving, so you have two choices, let them invite you along out of charity, or give them some privacy..and hang out by yourself.

Buddyless divers ARE single, from a Camaraderie standpoint, albeit not a romantic one.

[jextract]

In my defense, I have not been married in decades, so I have only a vague memory of that experiment. But now that I see, heck yes - Single Marrieds are fine with me.

Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?

So I'm I'm to understand correctly, since I have recently started seeing someone who is a diver in Dandy Don's world we wouldn't be welcome on any trip you happened to be on?

[Dennis]

Another problem with picking up a buddy on an LDS trip is that you have no clue who the person is or if the diver is competent. Depending on your own training and experience level, if you are buddied with a less than competent diver, you may be in a potentially dangerous situation. I've been there, I know.

Going on a trip with people you kind of know (people from SD for instance) helps this situation somewhat. Hopefully, you will eventually dive with those people more often and get more familiar with each other's abilities and skill levels. At least the buddy situation isn't a one-shot. You may have a dive buddy and a good friend for a long, long time. The friend part is even more important.

[DandyDon]

In my defense, I have not been married in decades, so I have only a vague memory of that experiment. But now that I see, heck yes - Single Marrieds are fine with me.

Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?

So I'm I'm to understand correctly, since I have recently started seeing someone who is a diver in Dandy Don's world we wouldn't be welcome on any trip you happened to be on?

Danyd Don's World? Is that something like Wayne's World?

Hey, I just now got someone to explain why Single-Marrieds would want to go on a Singles trip. I try to keep an open mind, and I'm grateful for that new understanding.

I offered this as a question: "Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?" Sorry if you took it otherwise.

[triggerfish]

In my defense, I have not been married in decades, so I have only a vague memory of that experiment. But now that I see, heck yes - Single Marrieds are fine with me.

Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?

So I'm I'm to understand correctly, since I have recently started seeing someone who is a diver in Dandy Don's world we wouldn't be welcome on any trip you happened to be on?

you'd BOTH be welcome on any trip I was on, jamie...and i'd kick the ass of anyone who objected.

not that i have any strong feelings in that respect...

[triggerfish]

Hey, I just now got someone to explain why Single-Marrieds would want to go on a Singles trip. I try to keep an open mind, and I'm grateful for that new understanding.

it gives the diving half of the couple the freedom to enjoy his/her activity without having to entertain the other half. there is nothing so miserable as watching a couple (married or not) arguing about the diver wanting to dive, and the other wanting to "see the island". or shop. or whatever.

[DandyDon]

Hey, I just now got someone to explain why Single-Marrieds would want to go on a Singles trip. I try to keep an open mind, and I'm grateful for that new understanding.

But, I'm gonna' catch hell anyway, whichever way I look.

[triggerfish]

that's why god put you on this earth, don.

gives us somebody to pick on.

[Marvel]

In my defense, I have not been married in decades, so I have only a vague memory of that experiment. But now that I see, heck yes - Single Marrieds are fine with me.

Unmarried Couples are a different deal, though. What about them on a Singles trip?

So I'm I'm to understand correctly, since I have recently started seeing someone who is a diver in Dandy Don's world we wouldn't be welcome on any trip you happened to be on?

Jamie, as TF said, you & Wendi would be most welcome on any trip that I participate in & I think that th majority of sd.com members would feel the same. Even though this is a site for single/buddiless divers,I hope that most of us, as people & divers tend to be inclusive rather that exclusive.

Personally, I would welcome any divers that want to join us on trips, no matter what their status. The best part of sd.com trips is the camaraderie that we experience while diving together & hanging out afterward. That camaraderie is not, & should not be, limited to just singles. Most of my best dive buddies are married or attached. We still have a great time diving together & then hanging out but then they rightfully go home to their SO. Sd.com simply gives us singles more options to meet & make new friends.

[triggerfish]

well said, sistuh

[flatwood]

well said, sistuh

I agree with you tf ( that makes me nervous lol) and marvel. I dive with groups to meet new friends and dive buddys.