It's been interesting to notice the names of new members also reading this thread when I pop in to see if someone has added something on-topic. Guess they're interested in what the group's feelings are?
Don, sounds like you were asking for more opinions.
So my perspective, having followed the thread and having been several types of divers on trips – part of a diving couple, a buddyless diver, a single diver.
As part of a diving couple, I always liked diving more than my buddy and I always liked having a “single” diver buddy with us, cause I knew in a couple days it would be down to a pair – me and the “single” diver.
As a single diver on trips I’ve had plenty of opportunities to dive, but I also like hearing, sharing, researching, learning about everything that’s seen underwater. On “couples” trips, much as the married buddyless diver pointed out, you’re pretty much on your own after the dive.
I haven’t been on an SD trip yet, but I’d venture to say, from what I’ve been reading, that someone who’s been on a trip as a single and was “lucky enough” to return as a couple, would probably find the opportunity to dive with some of the previous single buddies – at least that’s what I’d be doing.
Also, something else to consider – given the lead time of most trips – if you sign up for a trip and you’re single, then by some miracle you attract a reasonable mate, what happens to the trip? No issue if the trip’s full, but what if it’s not full and the mate’s a diver or even a bubble watcher that could easily get hooked? If you’re single and you’re dating (or holding out hope to be dating
) would you sign up for a trip with a long lead time if there were a bunch of rules attached about who could and couldn’t join the trip? (Sorry, occupational habit, but it’s something to consider when establishing any “rules”).