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"When are you going to get married?"


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#1 Cairo

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Posted 24 January 2022 - 05:38 PM

Quickly coming up on 40 and still single, still diving. However I am the only person in my friend group who is single and doesn't have any kids or has never been married. I find it sometimes kind of annoying or just odd when people ask when I'm going to get married or meet someone or whatever. It isn't for the lack of trying by any means it just never worked out. At some point it feels like if you are a certain age that people are ok with asking you this openly? If they followed it up with "You should meet my friend she's single too." It wouldn't be intrusive, but that never happens. 

 

Am I the only person this happens to? I know some of my lady friends feel a bit of static when people ask them why they don't have any kids yet or whatever. I can only imagine how intrusive that must be.



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Posted 24 January 2022 - 06:04 PM

Quickly coming up on 40 and still single, still diving. However I am the only person in my friend group who is single and doesn't have any kids or has never been married. I find it sometimes kind of annoying or just odd when people ask when I'm going to get married or meet someone or whatever. It isn't for the lack of trying by any means it just never worked out. At some point it feels like if you are a certain age that people are ok with asking you this openly? If they followed it up with "You should meet my friend she's single too." It wouldn't be intrusive, but that never happens. 

 

Am I the only person this happens to? I know some of my lady friends feel a bit of static when people ask them why they don't have any kids yet or whatever. I can only imagine how intrusive that must be.

I got married later in life so TOTALLY had this question presented in numerous ways and numerous times.  It never got better and never really ended. Sometime it was a backhanded complement...or so they said... "I'm surprised a great catch like you is still available" and sometimes it was an insult ..."are you sure you want to get married?  Don't be too picky!" But most of the time it was probably well intentioned albeit annoying although sometimes I just thought people were being overly inquisitive ie. nosey.

 

I think it happens to everyone... and since most people to tend to get married later in life...they have more time to ply you with such questions. 

 

Find your own way to reply...  some I used were...

 

"You mean you aren't divorced yet?" (When the person was being ugly or way too intrusive.

"You can't rush perfection"

"I'm in no rush... why get married for the sake of getting married"

But my favorite was... "It will happen when it happens... but I'd rather be single and moderately happy then married and miserable"

 

Great question. Hopefully others will chime in! Thanks for splashing around the forums! Hope to see some other topics created or awakened! ;)



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