Some advice I got from a friend of mine
#1
Posted 21 June 2005 - 09:50 AM
you have been around long enough to know that in 90% of male-female conversations - the female starts them! The only time a guy will start one is if he thinks it will lead to getting laid. And since this guy is in a galaxy far far away, he aint gonna initiate anything, LOL!
All I can say is
#2
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:02 AM
His or her???I was lamenting the fact that I initiate most of the email & phone conversations with this guy I met online. Anyway, this is her response, which I thought was quite prescient:
Frankly getting laid is the last of my concerns. It's been so long... but I digress. I try to start conversations but it seems to no avail. Either the ladies are repulsed by me, humour me or (if I'm lucky) they end up thinking I am "just a good friend". As a result I have sort of given up looking for much in terms of a relationship. My motto (sort of) is "If anything will happen, it'll happen...." Very Zen huh?
SD's Aussie Connection.
#3
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:15 AM
BLD: I think you're being too hard on yourself... but I like your motto. My twist is "if it's meant to be it will be - you can't push or pull it - and sometimes timing is everything".
#4
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:17 AM
Nah... not too hard... as a science teacher I can say that I have empirical data and my hypothesis (that I can't figure out women) has been proven correct.BLD: I think you're being too hard on yourself... but I like your motto. My twist is "if it's meant to be it will be - you can't push or pull it - and sometimes timing is everything".
I like your twist!
SD's Aussie Connection.
#5
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:29 AM
It isn't about getting laid. I have given up on that pursuit, LOL!
It is about being a pest. If the woman initiates conversation, I know that she wants a response. If I initiate conversation, I quickly become someone that is trying too hard. Normally, I am real good about answering e-mails, phone calls, etc. from a woman that I am trying to date in VERY short order once I receive them. I can think of one or two exceptions, but I will keep that to myself.
#6
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:36 AM
By all that is wet, I do hereby swear, (politely), and attest, upon pain of never diving again, (real or imagined), that I understand and affirm, that I agree to the above.
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Signed and Dated
#7
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:37 AM
and it ain't fine if you cross it!And if he flew across the galaxy to meet you that would be considered cute and romantic in the movies but in real life it's called stalking, we walk a fine line!
SD's Aussie Connection.
#8
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:43 AM
The gender generalization aside. Was it a guy or girl you were chatting with on line. I'm trying to figure out if it was one of our team giving up secrets or a clever spy.I was lamenting the fact that I initiate most of the email & phone conversations with this guy I met online. Anyway, this is her response, which I thought was quite prescient:
Every existing thing is born without reason, prolongs itself out of weakness, and dies by chance. - Jean-Paul Sartre
I feel the urge, the urge to submerge! -ScubaHawk - Raptor of the Deep !
WHO DAT!!!!
#9
Posted 21 June 2005 - 10:45 AM
DSSW,
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#10
Posted 21 June 2005 - 11:04 AM
When someone works an off-shift straight, their "available time" and your "work time" may not coincide well. For example...
I work second shift straight. Often (at least this year), I am working two weekends in a row on this schedule which adds up to 12, 19, or even 26 days when I am really not available to call anybody before I get a couple of days off. When I am working, my "available time" is the morning. Most people are working then or getting ready for work. Most people would not be happy with me calling after 11:00 pm although when I was actively dating, I would do this once in a while by appointment with the lady that I was seeing.
The fact of the matter is that I am not really on the market at the this time and I am cool with that. I have to get some things squared away with me first. In the meantime, I have my job and my diving. That is more than enough to allow me to keep busy and make myself more ready to meet that special someone.
#11
Posted 21 June 2005 - 11:20 AM
Not alwaysAnd if he flew across the galaxy to meet you that would be considered cute and romantic in the movies but in real life it's called stalking, we walk a fine line!
And, hey, Brian...e-mail. That usually works 24/7
#12
Posted 21 June 2005 - 11:23 AM
There's no shift work involved, but he does sound a lot like Brian.
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