Is it Love?
#1
Posted 18 January 2007 - 11:15 AM
#2
Posted 18 January 2007 - 11:21 AM
#3
Posted 18 January 2007 - 12:07 PM
Okay say you have been dating a man for about six weeks, and he drops the "L" word? You are not sure if you feel the same. So I ask you, when do you really know it is love and not just lust?
I thought lust was the L word.
Six weeks is just too early to tell. Infatuation and love feel very much alike. The difference is infatuation is short lived. If the feeling is still there after more than 6 months, it's love.
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#4
Posted 18 January 2007 - 12:34 PM
Okay say you have been dating a man for about six weeks, and he drops the "L" word? You are not sure if you feel the same. So I ask you, when do you really know it is love and not just lust?
I thought lust was the L word.
Six weeks is just too early to tell. Infatuation and love feel very much alike. The difference is infatuation is short lived. If the feeling is still there after more than 6 months, it's love.
I agree with you. I think after six months its love. But then again, you hear of "love at first sight."
#5
Posted 18 January 2007 - 01:52 PM
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#6
Posted 18 January 2007 - 02:29 PM
Love to me takes time to evolve out of not just attraction (mutual preferably) but out of trust and shared experience. I don't drop that "L" word easily... on the other hand, Walter's "L" word is a frequent thought!
#7
Posted 18 January 2007 - 02:37 PM
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Love to me takes time to evolve out of not just attraction (mutual preferably) but out of trust and shared experience. <snip>
Excellent definition, Bill!
#8 Guest_PlatypusMan_*
Posted 18 January 2007 - 02:44 PM
While three little words, they are not words that you can take back if you discover that it wasn't true.
You mean like these?
"You're under arrest."
"I am pregnant."
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#9
Posted 18 January 2007 - 04:31 PM
That pretty much sums it up to me. I think it is certainly possible that someone can feel that way about another person in 6 weeks time, so it may be love. Nonetheless, I would try to go for the 6 month love vs infatuation benchmark.You will know when you actually love someone because the words will just fall out of your mouth and you will not be able to stop yourself.
#10
Posted 18 January 2007 - 05:49 PM
"Love is blind but lust likes lacy panties" -- SanDiegoCarol
"If you're gonna be dumb, you'd better be tough." -- Phillip Manor
"If I know the answer I'll tell you the answer, and if I don't I'll just respond cleverly." -- Donald Rumsfeld
#11
Posted 18 January 2007 - 05:53 PM
Nonetheless, let us not discount the value of a deep, meaningful overnight relationship! Sometimes all you need is someone you could fall hopelessly, deeply in bed with.
I'd settle for that (although, of course, not with you, Jamie!).
#12
Posted 18 January 2007 - 06:19 PM
Interesting. How can you actually know you LOVE someone you've only just seen/met? In hindsight, assuming you enter into a successful relationship with said person, it may have *seemed* like love at first, but in reality, lust -- not even infatuation -- comes to mind.Love at first sight is real (I've experienced it), but you don't know if it's love or infatuation right away.
#13
Posted 18 January 2007 - 07:45 PM
Great topic. Interestingly enough, I think that everyone has their own interpretation of what love is or is not. And, really, as intangible as it may be, who knows if anyone has the answer. So with that being said, here is my interpretation:
Lust or infatuation is the feeling of new attraction and, although not limited to any defined period of time, is the excitedness we have in the early stages of a relationship. Love, on the other hand evolves over time as we get to know someone beyond their outward projections. As opposed to infatuation, it is a deeper feeling that I believe is a foundation of respect and acceptance of the shortcomings your mate possesses--and we ALL have a shortcoming or two with which any mate must learn to love!!
So, is it love? Could be, but too soon to tell.
#14
Posted 18 January 2007 - 08:19 PM
#15
Posted 19 January 2007 - 05:55 AM
Interesting. How can you actually know you LOVE someone you've only just seen/met? In hindsight, assuming you enter into a successful relationship with said person, it may have *seemed* like love at first, but in reality, lust -- not even infatuation -- comes to mind.Love at first sight is real (I've experienced it), but you don't know if it's love or infatuation right away.
Because the feeling hasn't changed after 6 months or 6 years. Lust is a vastly different feeling from either love or infatuation. If it's just lust, all you want is sex.
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