It is absolutely true that it takes patience and committement. I agree it is easy to fall into the trap that Moose is talking about and it takes a lot of hard work not to do that. Like Kamala and Bill, George and I talked about everything (and, given our phone bills I mean everything ) about likes, dislikes and who we are. We even involved each other in our everyday lives, talking while cooking dinner, cleaning the house, walking the dog, etc... If there was something that we didn't agree upon, we didn't gloss over it. We talked about appropriate compromises even before he made the move. We also discussed who was going to move and why. All of these things were weighed and considered. No relationship is perfect but LDRs definitely have more work and compromise involved than your average relationship. It takes an amazing person to make it worth all the work. All I can say is that George is that amazing person and, IMO, our relationship was worth every bit of work that we put into it.
Yes LDR's are more difficult but the best things in life are. The finest metals are heat tempered. Diamonds only occur over immense heat and pressure and millions of years. So the work and wait is worth it.
And LDR's are more rewarding...less is taken for granted and you learn more about a person IMHO when you are forced to talk about things, focus on things you would otherwise leave for another time or may never discuss.
While I hate to talk for Bill he has told me many times that he knows more about me then he did his former wifes. Yes I know...many will say isn't that a red flag to have been married more than once? Well lets just say we did a lot of *extra* talking about that.
And truth is he was always married for the duration...the ladies were not. But it takes two to make a relationship work and it if one person is not committed to making it work, no matter how hard the other works...it will not.
Personally I like many aspects of an LDR. Many men would not understand working most of the day at one job and then working the rest of the day, every lunch, before work and after work and every night and weekend at another job. However an LDR allows you to manage both. And in my case Bill understands my passion for SingleDivers.com and embraces it.
He is my biggest supporter and cheerleader. And for those who ask...how will you travel and be married? Well for starters Bill is gone nearly every weekend from April to Nov running dive charters out of town. When not out of town he is running trips locally or teaching or working on an offsite project. So we will just work to ensure that we *schedule* our time together which means we will never take it nor hopefully each other for granted!
And Michelle is right...it takes an amazing person to make an LDR work but it also takes an amazing person to make most relationships work. They are not easy nor will they ever be. And they will take lots of maintenace work to keep them strong. But oh the rewards are so worth it!