Now Separated and Buddyless
#16
Posted 03 August 2008 - 08:28 PM
Prepare for the day when they try to come back. That was after a month for me and I had all the locks changed and bank accounts modified by that point.
In the long term, go live your life to the positive and don't get mired in the negative.
Oh yes. One last really important thing. Remember it is HIS loss....
Tech Support - The hard we do right away; the impossible takes us a little longer...
"I like ponies on no-stop diving. They convert "ARGH!! I'M GOING TO DIE" into a mere annoyance." ~Nigel Hewitt
#17
Posted 03 August 2008 - 11:15 PM
I have the same T-shirt. My advice is to get involved with a local church. If you're already involved, get more involved. Also, try www.divorcecare.com. It has a lot of good, biblically-based lessons on what is (and will be) going on with you for the rest of your life. There are also divorcecare groups that meet at local churchs. Please just try it. There is much more to recovery than any of us ever imagine, there are significant risks in both the long and short term, and none of us can get through something like this (at least not sucessfully) on our own. I'll be off diving this week and probably out of contact with a computer (although I will try), but drop me a line if I can be of help and I'll get back to you when I can.
Mark
www.divorcecare.com
#18
Posted 04 August 2008 - 11:24 AM
#19
Posted 04 August 2008 - 12:56 PM
Thanks, all. There's no bitterness, just huge sadness and a whole lot of fear. Starting over at 49? Scary!
Keeping busy seems to be the consensus, along with "letting it out" when it overwhelms me. A positive outlook will help, but I think that's beyond me today. But, I'll be diving with some of you at the end of the month (early checkout on Sat., right?) so I do have meeting new friends to look forward to.
If anyone else feels like being encouraging, I'll definitely be on the threads!
You WILL make some great friends on these trips - I've said that many times. Some of my closest friends I met on SD - I consider them all family.
Many have offered great ideas - get out, do some stuff for yourself, I like what CMT said - change the towels/sheets etc. Keep your chin up - best of luck!!!
Edited by Starfish Sandy, 04 August 2008 - 12:56 PM.
#20
Posted 04 August 2008 - 01:35 PM
#21
Posted 04 August 2008 - 01:55 PM
Hey just remember there are good looking men on SD you could go on a trip and get to know one. LOL I may not be good looking but funny.
Funny surely counts big-time! Also, you're from New Mexico -- I lived there from 7th grade up until I joined the Army at age 19. Lived south, near Las Cruces. Where are you at?
#22
Posted 04 August 2008 - 02:05 PM
As a female, I have to admit the redecorating suggestion appeals! I was left with everything, so the "out with the old, in with the new" may work, and several said it helped them. Did someone say shopping?
#23
Posted 04 August 2008 - 03:20 PM
If you can't eat it or play with it,
Just pee on it and walk away.
#24
Posted 04 August 2008 - 04:30 PM
As cmt489 eloquently noted above (and she speaks from experience having supported me through some tough life events from afar), you are never alone!
Once in a while, it is good to step back, take a breath, and remember to be humble. You'll never know it all - ScubaDadMiami. If you aren't afraid of dying, there is nothing you can't achieve - Lao-tzu. One dog barks at something, the rest bark at him - Chinese Proverb.
#25
Posted 04 August 2008 - 04:36 PM
#26
Posted 04 August 2008 - 08:27 PM
Hey just remember there are good looking men on SD you could go on a trip and get to know one. LOL I may not be good looking but funny.
Funny surely counts big-time! Also, you're from New Mexico -- I lived there from 7th grade up until I joined the Army at age 19. Lived south, near Las Cruces. Where are you at?
I work in Albuquerque but live in mt. I have 2 1/2 ac with a small house 4 bed and 3 bath and a 1200sf garage. How did I do did I sell myself? LOL JK Hey if you make it down here let me know and I will go dive blue hole in santa rosa. I love my job but I want to move to FL.
#27
Posted 04 August 2008 - 08:53 PM
I am so sorry to hear you are facing such a difficult time. I do not know anything about the pain you must be feeling, but know that I join others here thinking about you and praying for you. Wish I could be there to give you a hug in person...but a long distance hug will have to do. Spoil yourself !!
**HUGS**
#28
Posted 05 August 2008 - 12:07 AM
And do stay positive and have a wonderful time in Roatan. Most of us on this site have had this experience before and are pulling for you!!!
Rosa
#29
Posted 05 August 2008 - 05:30 AM
Hey just remember there are good looking men on SD you could go on a trip and get to know one. LOL I may not be good looking but funny.
Funny surely counts big-time! Also, you're from New Mexico -- I lived there from 7th grade up until I joined the Army at age 19. Lived south, near Las Cruces. Where are you at?
I work in Albuquerque but live in mt. I have 2 1/2 ac with a small house 4 bed and 3 bath and a 1200sf garage. How did I do did I sell myself? LOL JK Hey if you make it down here let me know and I will go dive blue hole in santa rosa. I love my job but I want to move to FL.
I don't think you have to sell yourself with the stuff you own, but holy cow! Your garage is nearly as big as the living space in my house! Makes one wonder what in the world you put in a 1200sf garage.....lots of boats & dive gear, or are you one who keeps everything you've ever owned? I'm with you on the move to FL. If I didn't have daughter, son-in-law and 1 year old grandson here, as well as a good job, I'd be putting this house on the market and I'd head towards better diving myself.
Thanks for the laugh!
#30
Posted 05 August 2008 - 06:50 AM
Hey just remember there are good looking men on SD you could go on a trip and get to know one. LOL I may not be good looking but funny.
Funny surely counts big-time! Also, you're from New Mexico -- I lived there from 7th grade up until I joined the Army at age 19. Lived south, near Las Cruces. Where are you at?
I work in Albuquerque but live in mt. I have 2 1/2 ac with a small house 4 bed and 3 bath and a 1200sf garage. How did I do did I sell myself? LOL JK Hey if you make it down here let me know and I will go dive blue hole in santa rosa. I love my job but I want to move to FL.
I don't think you have to sell yourself with the stuff you own, but holy cow! Your garage is nearly as big as the living space in my house! Makes one wonder what in the world you put in a 1200sf garage.....lots of boats & dive gear, or are you one who keeps everything you've ever owned? I'm with you on the move to FL. If I didn't have daughter, son-in-law and 1 year old grandson here, as well as a good job, I'd be putting this house on the market and I'd head towards better diving myself.
Thanks for the laugh!
I have a son here that works for me (pest control company) and my dau is in Salt Lake with hubby and two kiks. My son said if I moved to FL he does not want the company he would move over there also. I certified him about 2 years ago so he like to dive also.
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