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[mechanical31]

Your a good man Kawika. I do believe I could learn a thing or two from your observations.


pickup line I would like to try sometime........Walk up to a nice looking lady and simply say : Hi, my name is Donny and I think I just figured out the cause of alzheimers in young men because I had a great line to use on you, but when I got close to you your stunning beauty made me forget it.

[Maria]

Kawika,

Make sure you take the time to grieve your separation before you jump into a new relationship. I jumped into something right after my separation and it was the biggest mistake I've ever made. Rebound relationships usually end in disaster and then the pain is even worse.

[Kawika]

Thanks for the advice Mahoneme...I definitely realize that as well. I want to make sure that before I date someone else (if it ever comes to that)...that I am able to give that special person my entire heart & soul...I'm the type of person that basically puts everything I've got into a relationship...and as yourself & others have noted...I don't think I am at that point in my life to give myself completely to someone else just yet. I've basically thought of just focusing on continuing to improve myself at this point...spiritually...physically...and emotionally. While I do miss being in a committed relationship...I also cherish the opportunity to continue growing as a person...

K

[Kawika]

Hey Mechanical31...thanks for the compliment. A lot of my viewpoints center around my faith in God...without it...I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to stand as strongly as I have through out this storm in my life.

K

[hnladue]

Kawika, are there any more like you in texas??? I'm thinkin' I need move! dang! You have a good soul, don't ever forget that!! XXOO

Heather.

PS.. off to look for a good club to beat your wife over the head with...maybe then she'll get a clue!

[Kawika]

Hey Heather...

Thanks for the compliments...I haven't always been this way...and I am still a work in progress...so no reason to beat her over the head... She's just hurt & there have been a lot of misunderstandings in our marriage (see my post on The Five Love Languages)...so I don't blame her for what she is doing. I just wish that she could have communicated things a little more clearly to me as opposed to a counselor...then we could have worked on things before she allowed herself to lose her love for me and get to the point where she felt that divorce was the only option available to her...and now to move on to someone else.

I've put myself in her shoes on several occasions to try to understand why she came to the conclusions she did...and if I brought myself to believe all the things that she believed at the time...then I can understand why she came to the decision she did. Unfortunately...a lot of those assumptions were false...and the fact that when she asked me for a divorce back in January...she thought I was just going to say, "OK"...just proves to me how disconnected we really were. We both made mistakes & contributed to our marital problems by being selfish as opposed to selfless towards one another...but I still have faith that God will use all of this for the best. I hang on to the following two Scriptures when things start getting me down:

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose."
Romans 8:28

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Jeremiah 29:11

Those two promises help me rest in the fact that God is in control of my life...and no matter how bad things may seem to me at times...I know that He is doing it for my own good. It isn't easy to understand at times...but I am just thankful that He loves me enough to continue helping me grow.

K

[AliKat]

"I went to the potter's house, and he was working there at his wheel. Whenever a clay pot he was working on was ruined, he would rework it into a new clay pot the way he wanted to make it." Jeremiah 18:3-4

I LOVE the New Living Translation of these verses. It reads "So I did as he told me and found the potter working at his wheel. But the jar he was making did not turn out as he had hoped, so the potter squashed the jar into a lump of clay and started again." (Underline mine)

God has had to do that with me on more than when occasion!

[ddierolf]

What pick-up lines have you used that were successful?

after all this time I am still looking for one that works! Just kidding. I don't have any at all.

[Kawika]

Well...maybe you could try...

"Are you just going to sit & drool or are you going to ask me out?"

[David Evans]

God has had to do that with me on more than when occasion!

VERY nice translation, AliKat! I've been squashed a few times myself, and although it's not fun, I have always found myself to be a better person afterwards.



I have a fat, happy chocolate Lab. He likes it when I get out the laser pointer and use it to draw big circles on the ground for him to chase... we call it playing "red dot".

In the past two years, due to a variety of circumstances, I've moved 5 times.

I've wondered sometimes if God doesn't like playing Red Dot with me.

My great grandmother used to say "The Good Lord works in strange and mischevious ways." I think the old lady knew what she was talking about.



-d (who believes that God has a great sense of humor... err... make that "humour", since it's Canada Day and all...)