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Posted 25 July 2006 - 09:46 PM
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Posted 25 July 2006 - 09:49 PM
Competition? Last I knew this wasn't a dating site and the people here were divers and friends and not competitors. No need to size anybody up less you intend on borrowing their wetsuit.That's an interesing statement, Doc. At first blush, it seems like you're casting a pretty wide net, with the relationship dependent concept. On the other hand, I wonder if it signals a more passive approach to meeting someone.
I threw out the question for a couple of reasons, one obviously being sizing up the competition (and I gotta tell you I'm a little concerned about the blueberry pie and paper goods), but more important to the group, is that I think it helps the search for a companion, to define who you are and what you offer.
It's a big old world out there, and to some minds, the rifle shot is a lot more rewarding than the shotgun approach to finding someone (not THAT kind of shotgun).
A life coach I once had suggested that I "send out a message to the universe" about who I wanted. Sounds lame, but she had a point, unless you are content to view relationships like Justice Stewarts opinion about pornography "I know it when I see it." It seems to make sense to define what we seek in others and to then see if we offer the things that person would want. If not, then make the changes to attract that type of person, or change your desires to fit what you bring to the table.
Posted 25 July 2006 - 10:37 PM
Posted 25 July 2006 - 10:47 PM
Posted 26 July 2006 - 07:16 AM
You can be guaranteed that at least I'll bring a fantastic wine list!
Edited by hnladue, 26 July 2006 - 07:16 AM.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 08:10 AM
Competition? Last I knew this wasn't a dating site and the people here were divers and friends and not competitors. No need to size anybody up less you intend on borrowing their wetsuit.
Sending out a message to the universe is a great idea; but I think Blackhawk said it best when he said "I'm me, isn't that enough?" It's not necessary to broadcast who you are, what you have to offer or what you're looking for. In fact doing so is likely to scare the dickens out of many of the potentials. Just be who you are...true to yourself and your convictions. Others will then see you for who you are and not what you "say" you are. If I have to point out all the wonderful little things about me to someone, he's probably not the person for me.
I'm guilty of changing myself to fit the wants and needs of my romantic interest. Again, the statement I keep repeating, "For over 20 years I've been someone else for someone else and now it's time to be me for me. To be honest, I think I really like who I am."
Posted 26 July 2006 - 10:18 AM
Posted 26 July 2006 - 10:28 AM
OUCH!You can be guaranteed that at least I'll bring a fantastic wine list!
I think you mean 'whine' list!!
I've got the cheese to go with it.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 11:54 AM
I bring: baggage and issues. Any takers?
Posted 26 July 2006 - 01:10 PM
I'll see your issues and raise you some bad experiences.I bring: baggage and issues. Any takers?
I'll match your baggage and raise you some issues.
Edited by Fairybasslet, 26 July 2006 - 01:13 PM.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 01:33 PM
I'll cover that and raise you one psycho-stalker.I'll see your issues and raise you some bad experiences.I bring: baggage and issues. Any takers?
I'll match your baggage and raise you some issues.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 02:32 PM
Tell me if you are the psycho-stalker or stalkee, and then I'll answer.I'll cover that and raise you one psycho-stalker.I'll see your issues and raise you some bad experiences.I bring: baggage and issues. Any takers?
I'll match your baggage and raise you some issues.
How ya like me NOW!?!?
Posted 26 July 2006 - 02:52 PM
I read the board a lot, Bill and many of the comments that I have read from you indicate that you are batchelor-oriented and not interested in having a serious relationship. Perhaps when you meet a woman you let them see only what you want them to see. Therefore if they do not see who you are it may be because you don't want them to know you that well. What do you think?Hmmm... maybe you have hit on something here. I've been using gill nets, hoping to catch a mermaid. Maybe I should start using butterfly nets to catch air breathers.
What I was referring to had nothing to do with being passive (moi? hardly!). It had to do with looking at me from the other person's perspective... what I bring to the table is therefore dependent on what THEY see rather than who I am. Some women will appreciate my outgoing personality, others my knowledge of marine biology, or my communication skills, or my commitment to marine education and conservation. What others see in me is only partially dependent on what I project... it also depends on what THEY see, what interests them.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 03:28 PM
Only my therapist knows for sure! Oooooh ... time for my meds.....Tell me if you are the psycho-stalker or stalkee, and then I'll answer.
Posted 26 July 2006 - 05:19 PM
I read the board a lot, Bill and many of the comments that I have read from you indicate that you are batchelor-oriented and not interested in having a serious relationship. Perhaps when you meet a woman you let them see only what you want them to see. Therefore if they do not see who you are it may be because you don't want them to know you that well. What do you think?What I was referring to had nothing to do with being passive (moi? hardly!). It had to do with looking at me from the other person's perspective... what I bring to the table is therefore dependent on what THEY see rather than who I am. Some women will appreciate my outgoing personality, others my knowledge of marine biology, or my communication skills, or my commitment to marine education and conservation. What others see in me is only partially dependent on what I project... it also depends on what THEY see, what interests them.
Edited by drbill, 26 July 2006 - 05:20 PM.
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