When I start to get wrapped up in someone else I want to see them and talk to them and do things together, alot. I don't call cause I don't want to call too much. But what if I don't call and he thinks I'm not all that interested? What if I do call and I smother him with attention? All these stupid questions start bouncing back and forth between my heart and my head beating me up from the inside out until I'm a complete basket case. Anyone that might have liked me for who I am is at that point running for dear life with the sound effects from Psycho pounding in their head.
First, great visual!
Next, I think what the consensus of these discussions is, “Call him when you WANT to call him.” Don’t think about if it’s too much or too little. If you call him when you want to, he will get a feeling for what kind of time you want to spend with him. If it’s too much or too little, he can communicate that, or maybe he will decided that you aren’t right for him. Either way, you are ahead of the game. If you spend a lot of time trying to figure it out, you will most likely not get it right, and then blow it because you weren’t being yourself.
I lack love...but then again, do I? Or maybe it's just the romance I lack.
I feel the exact same way.
One day after 10 years of marriage, she told him she wanted a divorce. He was floored! "Why?" he asked.
Her reply, "You're not the man I married."
Great joke! But I want to interject something. Asking someone to “change” is a matter of degree. There are little things that people can do to better themselves, that maybe someone else can help them with. What if that “thing” was chewing with his mouth open? Maybe it bothered a lot of other people. With a little help, he can over come it and be a better person without losing himself or being weak.
What if that thing was finishing a degree? Maybe he has always felt ashamed that he never finished his degree. Now, with his wife’s support, he can focus on it and achieve a goal in his life.
Here is one from my life. I am a terrible dresser. I often dress like a cocktail waitress on an oil rig!
However, I’ve been in relationships where my significant other helps me find clothes that look good and make me more presentable. I really enjoy dressing well; I just have no ability to do it myself*. (In fact, if I normally like an outfit, I reject it because I know that it most likely doesn’t match!) Am I weak because I have help picking out my clothes? Do I think that she is attracted to an oil rig waitress? No, but here is a little thing I can do to improve myself and I’m more than happy to do it.
Now, there is a line to this. If she starts saying things like, “I wish you would stop diving so much,” or “You know, I think you should get a full body tattoo and a ‘Prince Albert’!” All I can say is, “Exit, Stage Right, even!”
*=Maybe a topic to start another thread, but is it me or are other men completely blind to “patterns” and “fashion?” I mean, if a women picks up to plates in a store and asks, “Which pattern do you like better?” Do you just see to round, white plates like me? I’m also equally confused with “decorative items” in a home. If something doesn’t have a useful purpose, why do I need it, and even worst, DISPLAY it?