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[scubagirl]

Okay, you think you met your soul mate. But how do you know if he/she is the one? Is there really such a thing? Do you know anyone who says they have met theirs? Describe what you would consider your soul mate?

[Basslet]

If he has a pulse.

[Dennis]

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I'm sorry, that was just funny. I don't care who you are, that was funny.

On a serious note, I have my soul mate. Donna is my partner in life, she shares all of the fun, all of the heartaches. We don't always agree, but we always agree that whatever we disaggree about is never too important to keep us upset. I don't know if I can give you a definition, we fit.

Edited by Dennis, 12 February 2007 - 01:38 PM.

[mantarraya]

If he has a pulse.

Damn, Ellen, you sure have a lot of soul mates! And reasonable expectations to boot.

[drbill]

Don't believe in the concept. However, I do believe there are some very special people out there that we each connect with in a more meaningful way than with most others. I just don't believe there is only one such person out there for each of us (if this were true, I'd have a very bleak future... nothing but meaningless sex and no more true love).

Edited by drbill, 12 February 2007 - 03:46 PM.

[finGrabber]

Don't believe in the concept. However, I do believe there are some very special people out there that we each connect with in a more meaningful way than with most others. I just don't believe there is only one such person out there for each of us (if this were true, I'd have a very bleak future... nothing but meaningless sex and no more true love).

I don't believe in only one person for each of us. I think this message was put out there by women and men who met their best friend in high school and then married them, plus lived happily ever after.

If that had happened to me, I'd probably believe in "one soul mate" too. Honestly, I really believe that soulmate = best friend when that best friend is someone you are married to or have a significant relationship with. And I've had 2 true soulmates in my life by that theory

[mantarraya]

I don't buy into the one right person idea of the soul mate either, but I do believe that they are likely several people of the desired gender of interest in the world that one is likely to relate to better than all others, hence they are all potential "soul mates". The dang problem has always been locating those elusive individuals . I've never been lucky enough to be married to my best friend - quite the opposite, so I have no experience in one of finGrabber's concepts of soul mate at all. However, I am seeing someone now that is as close to a "soul mate" for me as I've ever found. The comfort level and trust between us is amazing and that is something I'd never experienced anywhere close to this degree previously....something that I had never expected to find at my advanced age!

[jonjon]

Don't believe in the concept. However, I do believe there are some very special people out there that we each connect with in a more meaningful way than with most others. I just don't believe there is only one such person out there for each of us (if this were true, I'd have a very bleak future... nothing but meaningless sex and no more true love).

I have never had meaningless sex---knew a woman once that liked to have MEAN sex!!

[zesach]

In my limited experience, soul-mates are those with whom there is amazing flow and it's just easy.

I've met two women like that in my life, but at some point, even though flow/easiness is still there, there isn't the same level of passion/intensity, and things just fade...

I've been wondering lately whether that soul-mateness is sustainable in the long run?

[annasea]

In my limited experience, soul-mates are those with whom there is amazing flow and it's just easy.

I've met two women like that in my life, but at some point, even though flow/easiness is still there, there isn't the same level of passion/intensity, and things just fade...

I've been wondering lately whether that soul-mateness is sustainable in the long run?

I reckon it is but it takes work. I think due to the *Now!* and disposable mentality of society in general, some/most people just don't want to invest the time or put forth the effort in making a relationship succeed. We had a similar discussion here.

[drbill]

My point was that I probably already met her if there were such a thing, and she's no longer available.

With the billions of people on this planet (not to mention my friends on Xanadu), I can't imagine there wouldn't be at least a dozen or two women with whom I could have a "soulmate-like" relationship, maybe even hundreds of them. I just have to find out where they are, and neither Match.com nor Date.com has helped much.

[jeff]

My ex-wife wrote some pretty remarkable things down on some business cards along these lines but my income seemed to burst that bubble...six months latter my income doubled and she is still an x.


ie. that I was perfect, and a soulmate, completed her.

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I was in a christian class and heard about having a perfect mate picked out for me, but through the ages of time with sin all around and rampant that she ended up with someone else and now everybodys perfect mate is paired with the wrong person, some find a very close match, but nothing like it could be. This thought doesn't give alot of credit to GOD being in control, but its one of the things I remember from that class.
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Edited by jeff, 12 February 2007 - 11:03 PM.

[Brinybay]

[cmt489]

Do any of us really have a soul mate? Sure we have people that we are more compatible with than others but at the end of the day, all relationships require work. If we sit back and expect fate to take care of us, no matter how compatible the person is with you, the relationship is bound to fail. Life is not a romance novel - initial attraction is key in the beginning but hard work and not fate and epiphanies are required to make it last.