need some prayers and a hug..........
#1
Posted 01 January 2005 - 09:44 PM
Sandy
#2
Posted 01 January 2005 - 09:53 PM
#3
Posted 01 January 2005 - 09:58 PM
Be thankful for the days that you have already received with him. I can almost guarantee you that if this had been ten years earlier with CHF, you would not have as long as you have had. Use this to remind you and your son that every day is precious.
Oh, and hope that he gets it through his head that he needs to take care of himself. Hugs!
Brian
#4
Posted 01 January 2005 - 10:00 PM
#5
Posted 01 January 2005 - 10:39 PM
And I will pray that YOU have the courage to stand your ground and do what the doctor ordered. -ww
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#6
Posted 01 January 2005 - 11:28 PM
I agree with WW....
He's old enough now to run his life, all you can do is be there WHEN he decides HE WANTS help.
You can't do any more, so plan for the worst, hope for the best and take him though the ropes so he's getting a full idea of what's involved etc..
Good luck, but you can only do what you can only do...
and wouldn't feel guilty if the worst happens...
You can lead them to water, but can't make them drink...
Tough Love....
#7
Posted 02 January 2005 - 01:52 AM
I hope he straightens out and flies right soon!
Dejah
#8
Posted 02 January 2005 - 06:09 AM
#9
Posted 02 January 2005 - 06:29 AM
mark
#10
Posted 02 January 2005 - 06:45 AM
You might also enlist any close friends of his too. Afterall...I'm sure that they do not know that thier buddy is such a walking timebomb and that he has full control over it.
Remember...desparate times dictate desparate measures. Call if I can do anything! -ww
And finally...it seems that having been sick so long he wants to be normal and normal may mean no meds. You might try some counseling as part of the 'tough love' package deal. Do it together and help him explore the issues he is facing. He can then help you explore how it feels to be a mother watching a son stroll along a suicide path as if it were a Sunday afternoon walk.
Ask the doc to prescribe it for you along with a written script for the casket choosing, the funeral arrangements, the will writing etc. It sounded as if he would be supportive of your efforts. You could also tell your son that you've contacted the Dr. Phil show for a segment on 'How Parents cope with children who regularily put their lives at risk" or something similar. I know he will think you are nuts but it WILL make him think and it may make him realize that this 'death' thing is real...even for him!
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#11
Posted 02 January 2005 - 08:53 AM
My heart goes out to you. Your son probably thinks he's immortal, as we all did at that age. Maybe a therapist? I'll pass this on to mom. She can get a few extra prayers for y'll.
Sophia/Susan
p.s. I like the Dr. Phil idea. Or worse yet, Jerry Springer! (Shiver in disgust)
#12
Posted 02 January 2005 - 09:45 AM
Jerry Springer?? Can you imagine?? ugggggggghhhhh.
Sandy
#13
Posted 02 January 2005 - 11:58 AM
The alternatives are worse! Hang in there and lean on us ANYTIME you want! And if you don't...we'll come get you anyway! -wwTough love sucks!
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#14
Posted 02 January 2005 - 05:50 PM
I hope someone has taken the time to explain all this to your son. Not so much the potential consequences of NOT doing all the right things, but a little of WHY and HOW and WHAT these medicines and therapies are for. You also might want to consider having him see a therapist. I can't imagine what must be going through his mind knowing that he may die a lot sooner than he had planned. He might need to get his head straight before he can accept the "consequences of his actions" thing. He may be in denial about the seriousness of his condition. I think that until HE sees what is happening, he may continue with this undestructible attitude.
I also hope that your friends here, and where you are, and your family give you some small measure of comfort with their love and support.
G
#15
Posted 02 January 2005 - 09:00 PM
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