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[Marvel]

Oh Sandy- my heart goes out to you. WW's suggestion might be a really good one-check with the doctor or a therapist. My daughter has never forgotten the trip that we made to the jail for a reality check when she started acting out. You & your son will definitely be in my prayers.

[hge54]

Sandy,

Having lived through my daughter's anorexia, and the suicide of a close relative, I can relate to the unique, living hell that only our children can put us through. Please consider that your son may not be feeling invincible, but suicidal. He should be evaluated by a psychiatrist, not a therapist, counsellor, psychologist, or family doctor. The well meaning advice of his caridologist may be just the wrong thing to do.

God Bless,

Hal

[WreckWench]

Sandy,

Having lived through my daughter's anorexia, and the suicide of a close relative, I can relate to the unique, living hell that only our children can put us through. Please consider that your son may not be feeling invincible, but suicidal. He should be evaluated by a psychiatrist, not a therapist, counsellor, psychologist, or family doctor. The well meaning advice of his caridologist may be just the wrong thing to do.

God Bless,

Hal

Sandy...don't leave ANYTHING to chance...follow ALL courses of action. HGE54 may be right on the money...seek professional help FIRST and then resort to the suggestions that us lay people have offered! -ww

[Sonny Beaches]

Sandy my thoughts -Prayers are with you the Hugs come in Cozumell.
I know how difficult is is to raise teanagers with just one parent. Arguing with a 17 year old last night because I took away his keys for misssing curfew the night before, after just getting them back from missing my curfew this past week.
Stay strong, Pray a lot and Know that you have done your best.
I truly believe that they will go the way they want , no matter how they were raised and brought up , and hopefull they will come back to what they were tought someday.
I know I raised two for the past 14 years one is totally different form the other . even though they were raised the same, and we were in church most sundays, on still goes alsmost every sunday, the other the 17 alsmost refuses to go and giving me a hard time. A good kid, but beats to his own drum.
Best of wishes and I also believe that trip to see a good counsler, or therapist maybe best, I have tried all including tough love, still using that now, counslers, therapist including days at one of the toughest boot camps in Texas
Just do not give up and do not let it get you down, for you have done Great job, but it is a lot up to him and his wishes. Remeber, you can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink. My PRAYERS are with you both...

[Raven]

Sandy, I too agree with WW.

I will keep you in my prayers. I have a wonderful 13 year old son who is precious. As a mom we want to protect them. Since my son doesn't have an illness more serious than the occaisional I am a typical teenager syndrome I can't imagine what you are going through except that my cousin died from Cystic Fibrosis and a life-long illness makes those closest strong and determined people so I am sure you will get through to him.

Good luck.

R

[Maria]

Sandy,

I wish I had some good advice for you. Hopefully your son will come to his senses and realize how precious his life is and how unfair it is to put the people who love him through so much grief.

[Starfish Sandy]

Again, thank you to all of you for your support and prayers. I really appreciate it!!! I haven't seen much of my pride and joy lately but I do talk to him daily. He says he's taking his medications - so I will go on faith that he is. That's something!! At this point - I will take what I can get.

I will be the one in Coz with a sign hung around my neck that says "free hugs" !

Thank you all again.

Sandy

[finGrabber]

I will be the one in Coz with a sign hung around my neck that says "free hugs" !

You might want to be careful about that sign!!

Jesus may just take you up on that


wait a minute!! I could pay for my trip to Fiji...what am I thinking!!

[Diverbrian]

Sandy,

Having lived through my daughter's anorexia, and the suicide of a close relative, I can relate to the unique, living hell that only our children can put us through. Please consider that your son may not be feeling invincible, but suicidal. He should be evaluated by a psychiatrist, not a therapist, counsellor, psychologist, or family doctor. The well meaning advice of his caridologist may be just the wrong thing to do.

God Bless,

Hal

I have lived through some family tradegies myself. I won't specify on an open board, but they were serious enough to get me out of the Navy three years early.

The professional help for BOTH of you is a great idea. You don't realize how living with a person with special needs can affect you until you look at yourself later.

Thanks for the suggestion,

Brian

[Laura]

Add my prayer to the list....take care and hang in there.

Laura

[Starfish Sandy]

Wanted to give an update on the child!!!! He seems to have "seen the light" and is back to taking his meds and walking the straight line - making good grades and doing home work!!!! Thank you so much for the prayers and thoughts - I hope he continues on this pathway!!!

[WreckWench]

Sandy that is good news. However pls keep a close eye! He may be calling out for attention and still need you to help him.

[Mitch0129]

Sandy, I am a little late getting into this discussion and I first want to apologize for being so late. Next, I will send along to you my best wishes for both you and your son. It seems that he is coming around which is great. Most 18-year-old boys (or should I say "young men") think they are bullet-proof, I know I did. How I did not end up six-feet under by the time I was 22 is a mystery to me. I guess the Lord did not want me just yet.

I would like to ask, does he have an older male figure in his life who he can go talk to about "just anything"? Yes, it could be his father, but ideally it would an uncle, a coach, or a family friend, someone who does not have to handle the day-to-day discipline or make parental decisions. That could help a lot.

A friend of mine has a son the same age as yours, I have known the boy since he was 13. Along the way, he learned that he could come to me when he wanted to just talk. He would talk about girls, playing on his high school football team, dealing with his mom, issues with school, you name it. The thing is that what he says to me rarely if ever goes beyond us and he knows that. I imagine I know some things that would make his mom cringe. But his mom has told me on many occasions how much she appreciates that I provide that sounding board for her son.

Please keep us posted on how he is doing.

[maxdvr]

Amen sandy....so glad to see the power greater than us have choosin to bless you and your son wth the oppotunity to enjoy another day together.... my prayers will be will u both ...always..

max

[Dejah]

Sandy,

Glad to hear your young one came around to see he was making some big mistakes by not following doctors orders... I hope he stays on the right track!!

Dejah