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Edited by WreckWench, 19 April 2004 - 01:57 PM.
Posted 19 April 2004 - 11:32 AM
Edited by WreckWench, 19 April 2004 - 01:57 PM.
Posted 19 April 2004 - 11:49 AM
I'll be honest. I've pretty much "outgrown" most of the scenes where that happens. The last lady that I was with that was that way I wound up dating for 3 1/2 yrs.more like a magician who doesn't reveal how he pulls his rabbit out of the hat.
okay...question for the ladies (and men if you want). what do you do if you're hanging out with a friend who gets inebriated and becomes too touchy-feely in public and they don't really understand your requests to stop?
Posted 19 April 2004 - 01:47 PM
Brian, if you were a saucy young hottie like Miss Chie , that scene would follow you everywhere you went. I'm sure she can't avoid dealing with unwanted advances most of the time.I'll be honest. I've pretty much "outgrown" most of the scenes where that happens. The last lady that I was with that was that way I wound up dating for 3 1/2 yrs.
Posted 19 April 2004 - 02:04 PM
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Posted 19 April 2004 - 05:42 PM
True, Walter but women are often raised to ber indirect in uncomfortable situations & don't realize that they are not making themselves clear enough or, worse yet, the training that they have received from infancy on inhibits their ability to be forceful & direct. Yes, sea nmf, he most certainly DOES understand- it's just that the response may be couched in such a way that he can tell himself that she is just being playful & coy & that it is OK to continue on. Certainly, that was the way I was brought up & it took a lot of self-training on my part to become even remotely capable of saying something clearly & directly in this type of situation. Sad to say, I can't honestly say that I've completely purged that early subserviant indoctrination, I just don't live in it! But, I agree with 'Maus on the steps that she suggested 'Chie take. That's the path that I usually follow & it works pretty well with most people.I have to agree with sea nmf. Unless you are speaking different languages, he understands. He may be ignoring you, but if that's the case, he's lost any consideration for his feelings as he's clearing showing no consideration for your feelings. Don't worry about being rude. Why should you be polite when he's being worse than rude? If rude doesn't work, leave. If he tries to stop you from leaving, break his finger. He earned it.
Posted 19 April 2004 - 05:59 PM
Posted 19 April 2004 - 06:21 PM
Posted 19 April 2004 - 06:40 PM
Okay, so maybe my views are rash. Wouldn't be the first time.Ok the problem here is that the person in question is a friend...and she is trying to find out how to get help delicately but effectively and not ruin the friendship if at all possible. At least I think that is the situation....help Mischeviuos?? Are we all out to lunch on this one????
You have choices...
You do not have accept unacceptable behaviour, ever!
Posted 19 April 2004 - 07:27 PM
What can I say....excellent reply!! -wwOkay, so maybe my views are rash. Wouldn't be the first time.Ok the problem here is that the person in question is a friend...and she is trying to find out how to get help delicately but effectively and not ruin the friendship if at all possible. At least I think that is the situation....help Mischeviuos?? Are we all out to lunch on this one????
I guess maybe I should have started with:You have choices...
Followed by:You do not have accept unacceptable behaviour, ever!
But I've been a male all my life, and I know some of the stupid tricks we'll try.
Also keep in mind that most sexual assualts are by people known to the victim.
Posted 19 April 2004 - 09:03 PM
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