Online dating
#1
Posted 01 May 2005 - 08:48 PM
http://apnews.myway..../D89QNJ000.html
"A good marriage is like an interlocking neurosis, where the rocks in one person's head fill up the holes in the other's."
#2
Posted 02 May 2005 - 09:05 AM
Actually I've met a few nice ladies via Internet dating web sites. Nothing really clicked except with one, but then she "disappeared" (she was being harrassed by an ex-boyfriend and I think she returned to her home in Shanghai). However none of the ladies were real SCUBA divers despite writing that they enjoyed diving in their profiles. I wonder why I still waste time on the sites.
Dr. Bill
#3
Posted 02 May 2005 - 09:15 AM
USAF (Ret.)
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"We've got a blind date with Destiny - and it looks like she's ordered the lobster."
- The Shoveller (Mystery Men)
When in doubt, just call 1-800-829-0433
#4
Posted 02 May 2005 - 10:33 AM
Fin-again
#5
Posted 02 May 2005 - 03:36 PM
Rick
Any guy can give you the key to his bedroom, but a real man gives you the key to his heart.--Leslie McKey
#6
Posted 02 May 2005 - 03:56 PM
"I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else." C. S. Lewis
#7
Posted 02 May 2005 - 05:24 PM
I hope he dives, I hope he has a boat, I hope that he has enough money to afford me and all my diving buddies (hey a gal can dream can't she)
Life is a matter of luck, and the odds in favor of success are in no way enhanced by extreme caution... Erich Topp WW II U Boat Commander
#8
Posted 02 May 2005 - 05:36 PM
#9
Posted 02 May 2005 - 07:57 PM
I find the idea of internet dating to be a bit too 'pressured' for me personally - almost like a job interview. People coming forth with very specific expectations of a mate, hoping to receive and give responses tailor-made to their wants. (Match.com, especially, has struck me this way whereas lavalife seems more flexible due to their 'just dating' section - it seems more casual and less pressured.) I realise this opinion might seem rather extreme to others, but this has been the sense that I've gotten so far from some of the ads that I glanced at - whether they were male or female.
My thoughts are that such an approach might be a bit like putting the cart before the horse. An example, albeit an extreme one(!) , "I want a ranch-style house, with 2 cars, 3 kids, 4 pets, and my spouse must be . . ." Does this strike others as a somewhat self-centred approach life? To me, it seems as if some people are shopping for someone to complete their picture, with very little compromise allowed, rather than creating a picture together with another's wants and needs, which may not necessarily be what the other envisioned initially for themselves.
My thought has always been to remain open to people and situations because I might find something that I never knew I wanted and that might prove to inevitably make me happy in the end, not what I thought I wanted! (Too much of a dreamer? I don't know . . . )
But congratulations to you, Michelle! You seem to be the SD Poster Child for internet dating success at the moment!
I hope others find good fortune as well - whether it be via the internet or other means.
Edited by annasea, 02 May 2005 - 10:43 PM.
#10
Posted 02 May 2005 - 11:34 PM
Jerry Seinfeld once joked that first dates are like "very long job interviews".I find the idea of internet dating to be a bit too 'pressured' for me personally - almost like a job interview.
That's great that some of you have had good experiences with online dating. I must have a reverse "midas touch". At best, I found the online dating experience to be tedious and frustrating. At worst, I got to meet psycho's, cheaters and gold-diggers. Not for me.
"A good marriage is like an interlocking neurosis, where the rocks in one person's head fill up the holes in the other's."
#11
Posted 03 May 2005 - 05:07 AM
#12
Posted 03 May 2005 - 06:02 AM
But I can report a tiny little success story. About 24 hours before I was going to pack in the whole online dating thing and call it a lesson learned, Handygeek (Jeff) and I met through Match.com, and a SingleDivers dive was our first official date. Complete and total love at first site (and dive!). We are now engaged and looking to get married mid-October. We could be one of those smiling, nattily dressed couples in the TV ads for online services . . . that is, if they weren't so horribly saccharine and painful to watch!
We're heading to the Lower Keys for a short camping vacation in June if anyone has any suggestions. I hear the No Name Pub is a good place to go if you can find it. Anything else?
"I don't know you except for the way a traveler knows a traveler." -- "Pacific Street," HEM
#13
Posted 03 May 2005 - 06:44 AM
We want pics of the wedding. Might have to start a use to be single but found each other part of SD... aka married/couples divers...
Formerly known as gis_gal and name tattoo'd for a small bribe!
#14
Posted 03 May 2005 - 07:39 AM
Life is a matter of luck, and the odds in favor of success are in no way enhanced by extreme caution... Erich Topp WW II U Boat Commander
#15
Posted 03 May 2005 - 10:45 AM
3 different dates in One Month tell me, "Oh, by the way, I'm married."
As IF it was an inconvenience ?!?!?!?
Countless instances of ...
"the man I marry must make (insert high income bracket amount here)"
No photo = be afraid, Be Very Afraid!
Clingy, co-dependent, crazy, destitute, substance-dependent, cat-dependent,
closet-smokers, workaholics, split-personalities ... AAIIIEEEEE!!!!!!
My favorite opening line ... "I don't cook!"
I -nearly- replied with, "Gee, then you must _______ pretty good!"
I've been active on/off the internet dating thing waay back in the days
of alt.personals (Usenet) in the 80s. I recall getting some fairly intelligent replies in those days, because it wasn't just anyone who had access. Usually it was those only smart enough to seek access, or those who had access thru universities, military, government jobs, etc. eMails exchanged were typically paragraphs of good conversation, not the blurps of one-liners all too common nowadays.
Try to impress someone with a good diatribe about yerself, interests, goals, loves, the works ... and I basically get back a "nice tie!" comment. If I find someone writes back more than a paragraph, my heart beats like I struck Gold!!
*sigh*
Most of my ads nowadays are deleted or turned off. I've found that in 95% of cases, if a gal does answer my ad, I really need to question why.
One time, when yahoo personals were still free to anyone, I placed a totally sarcastic ad to the effect of ... rich sugar daddy seeks princess to spoil ... free VISA card on 1st date ... must like cats. Damned if I didn't get a dozen responses overnight, only 2 of which recognized it as the ridiculous satire it was and thanked me for a good laugh!
*SIGH!*
Just let em meet me on the dive boat, happy hour, picnic, whateverrr!
so I can just meet em in person and get the vibes first.
Wait a tic ... scratch the dive boat dates ... dems da worst!
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