The difference between male/female sexual desire
#1
Posted 27 July 2005 - 08:07 PM
I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ
so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I
have never figured out why men think with their head and women with
their heart.
FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting
into bed.
Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says "I don't
feel like it, I just want you to hold me."
I said "WHAT??!! What was that?!"
So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to
hear..."You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for
me to satisfy your physical needs as a man." She responded to my puzzled
look by saying, "Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do
for you in the bedroom?"
Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.
The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time
with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big
unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on
several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one
to take so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to
compliment her new clothes, so I said lets get a pair for each outfit.
We went onto the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of
diamond earrings. Let me tell you...she was so excited. She must have
thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was
testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't
even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said,
"That's fine, honey." She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation she finally said, "I think this is
all dear, let's go to the cashier."
I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, "No honey, I don't
feel like it."
Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled
WHAT?"
I then said "honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while.
You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me
to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman." And just when she had this
look like she was going to kill me, I added, "Why can't you just love
me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?"
Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.
#2
Posted 28 July 2005 - 07:10 AM
#3
Posted 28 July 2005 - 07:51 PM
Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.
You need to find more friends with benefits....
#4
Posted 28 July 2005 - 09:06 PM
Had an interesting talk with my nephew and his friend Allison while there were out. He is a HS senior and she is attending college this year. We discussed concepts like "friends with benefits," "hooking up," and going steady/LTR's. I must admit although the second one does sound like the 60's (from what I can remember), in this day and age I'm glad my son and I opt for the third.
Fortunately the women over the last few years in my life rarely seem to be of the kind described above. Their sex drives are at least equal to mine. I love it.
#5
Posted 29 July 2005 - 06:11 AM
...if the sex drive is shifted out of first gear, then things should have already progressed to marriage. I just seem to note that the decisions made with the big head work out well far more often than the decisions made with the little head.
#6
Posted 29 July 2005 - 06:40 AM
Fortunately the women over the last few years in my life rarely seem to be of the kind described above. Their sex drives are at least equal to mine. I love it.
It's true, you don't meet many of the old fashioned gold digger types like you used to.
And they all seem much more interested in sex, you're right.
#7
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:17 AM
#8
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:25 AM
While that may be true, that last line was from the joke, not me.Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.
You need to find more friends with benefits....
#9
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:27 AM
What is Option D? Abstinence?Why complicate things? I'll take option D for right now. That is that I don't have to worry about a sex drive if I do my best to keep it in neutral. I would like to have the discipline at this point that one lady discussed (and another of my dive buddies mentioned to me)...
...if the sex drive is shifted out of first gear, then things should have already progressed to marriage. I just seem to note that the decisions made with the big head work out well far more often than the decisions made with the little head.
#10
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:29 AM
Yeah. That's the ideal. (sigh) But a friend "with benefits" sounds pretty good to me too.DrDiver-
Had an interesting talk with my nephew and his friend Allison while there were out. He is a HS senior and she is attending college this year. We discussed concepts like "friends with benefits," "hooking up," and going steady/LTR's. I must admit although the second one does sound like the 60's (from what I can remember), in this day and age I'm glad my son and I opt for the third.
#11
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:57 AM
Any "gold digger" would soon give up on this "starving" marine biologist!
See Drbill, the tides of social change are all working in your favor. You will soon be swept up in a veritable grunion spawning of available females, I know it!
#12
Posted 29 July 2005 - 08:59 AM
Yeah. That's the ideal. (sigh) But a friend "with benefits" sounds pretty good to me too.
Like the old Steve Stills song
"And if you can't be, with the one you love
Love the one you're with"
Edited by drdiver, 29 July 2005 - 08:59 AM.
#13
Posted 29 July 2005 - 09:23 AM
Just make sure you practice safe sex. That song was written pre-AIDs, herpes and all other kind of nasty things that can't be cured with some penicillinYeah. That's the ideal. (sigh) But a friend "with benefits" sounds pretty good to me too.
Like the old Steve Stills song
"And if you can't be, with the one you love
Love the one you're with"
#14
Posted 29 July 2005 - 09:24 AM
It is strange DrDiver... when I am single, I rarely get approached (and am a bit shy about approaching). When I am with someone, the ladies seem to come out of the woodwork. Must be something I give off (increased pheromone levels???). Of course I don't think this is unique to me, other men have commented on it too.See Drbill, the tides of social change are all working in your favor. You will soon be swept up in a veritable grunion spawning of available females, I know it!
#15
Posted 29 July 2005 - 09:43 AM
Just make sure you practice safe sex. That song was written pre-AIDs, herpes and all other kind of nasty things that can't be cured with some penicillin lmao.gif
Hey, I'm a microbiologist, we invented safe sex!
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