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[Basslet]

When you're with a woman, and the moment presents itself to get hot and heavy, do you make the first move or wait for her to initiate?

[blacklatexozdiver]

I'd say 50:50 for me. But that's me and not everyone else....

[Hipshot]

I won't put it into a ratio. Instead, I'll say that it depends on the woman.

Rick


Macho does not prove mucho.--Zsa Zsa Gabor

[Basslet]

I won't put it into a ratio. Instead, I'll say that it depends on the woman.

Rick


Macho does not prove mucho.--Zsa Zsa Gabor

You mean if the woman turns you on?

[Diverbrian]

No, at least in my case it depends on if I think that I would foul things up by initiating right then.

Some of us are looking to for someone to stay with and if it looks to only last a night or two, I may decide to pass.

[ScubaHawk]

Speaking for myself if the woman doesn't turn me on, we're not getting anywhere near a "Hot & Heavy" moment.

[annasea]

Speaking for myself if the woman doesn't turn me on, we're not getting anywhere near a "Hot & Heavy" moment.

I think Ellen's question is based on the fact that both of you are turned on. So then what? Do you make *the move*, or do you wait for her to initiate?

[Basslet]

Speaking for myself if the woman doesn't turn me on, we're not getting anywhere near a "Hot & Heavy" moment.

I think Ellen's question is based on the fact that both of you are turned on. So then what? Do you make *the move*, or do you wait for her to initiate?

Thank you Annasea!!! See guys, not only is she pretty, she's smart too.

[Hipshot]

You mean if the woman turns you on?

No, I mean that each instance is separate and distinct, so there is no set plan or rule. The woman (mostly) and the other circumstances are the criteria by which an action is taken. I apologize for making it sound so objective, and I assure you that objectivity has nothing to do with the situation, but it's the best way that I can describe it.

Rick


Gladiator in harena consilium capit. (The gladiator forms his plan in the arena).
--Roman saying

[ScubaHawk]

I won't put it into a ratio.  Instead, I'll say that it depends on the woman.

Rick


Macho does not prove mucho.--Zsa Zsa Gabor

You mean if the woman turns you on?

OK annasea how does that, translate into . . .

I think Ellen's question is based on the fact that both of you are turned on. So then what? Do you make *the move*, or do you wait for her to initiate?

[ScubaHawk]

I figured out where the misunderstanding came in, You were refering to her first post, My comment was based on her reply to Hipshot. - I got it now.

Edited by ScubaHawk, 13 November 2005 - 02:19 PM.

[Basslet]

I figured out where the misunderstanding came in, You were refering to her first post, My comment was based on her reply to Hipshot. - I got it now.

So answer the question then.

[Diverbrian]

Speaking for myself if the woman doesn't turn me on, we're not getting anywhere near a "Hot & Heavy" moment.

I think Ellen's question is based on the fact that both of you are turned on. So then what? Do you make *the move*, or do you wait for her to initiate?

Just because I may be turned on doesn't mean that "taking advantage of the moment" is a great idea.

If the lady in question doesn't look to fill long term goals, it may be best to pass and wait for someone that "turns me on" a little less, but is a better prospect for meeting my long term goals rather than confuse the issue and add another name to my already too large (although it is smaller than most) "little black book".

[Dennis]

Ellen,

It was too long ago to remember.

Actually, if I remember correctly, I probably missed out on a lot of action because I was hesitant and waited for the lady to give me some kind of hint. The hint is that she doesn't make you stop. If she does make you stop, then she isn't ready for anything further. Or, she may just not be interested, but I finally figured out that when she is interested, you will know.

So, the answer is: Eventually I figured out that if we were both hot and bothered, I kept moving until I was told to stop. If she didn't want to stop, then .....

Does this make any sense at all? I'm not really sure if it does or not.

Edited by Dennis, 13 November 2005 - 03:26 PM.

[PerroneFord]

I'll make it clear I'm interested, but that's about as far as it goes. Political climate these days have become contrary to guys making the "first move". Too easy for signals to get crossed. Ramifications for mistakes too severe.