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[shadragon]

Although it may not be true in every case, a relationship that ends generally has five phases:

Phase 1 - Discovery
Phase 2 - Infatuation
Phase 3 - Things aren't quite the same
Phase 4 - Indifference
Phase 5 - Alienation

You forgot:

Phase 6: Legal representation...

[jextract]

Although it may not be true in every case, a relationship that ends generally has five phases:

Phase 1 - Discovery
Phase 2 - Infatuation
Phase 3 - Things aren't quite the same
Phase 4 - Indifference
Phase 5 - Alienation

Rick



Genius is 1 percent inspiration and 99% perspiration, which is why engineers sometimes smell really bad.

My relationship with my ex-wife only had 2:
Phase 1: F-ing
Phase 2: F You!

[annasea]

Although it may not be true in every case, a relationship that ends generally has five phases:

Phase 1 - Discovery
Phase 2 - Infatuation
Phase 3 - Things aren't quite the same
Phase 4 - Indifference
Phase 5 - Alienation

Rick



Genius is 1 percent inspiration and 99% perspiration, which is why engineers sometimes smell really bad.

My relationship with my ex-wife only had 2:
Phase 1: F-ing
Phase 2: F You!

LOL! Now that's funny!

[netmage]

I like what WW said. You need to give each other some breathing room. If it's a solid relationship, it won't hurt it.

Is that with SCUBA tanks or without?

I wonder if that's that where the 7' hose comes in....?

[WreckWench]

I like what WW said. You need to give each other some breathing room. If it's a solid relationship, it won't hurt it.

Is that with SCUBA tanks or without?

I wonder if that's that where the 7' hose comes in....?

Aha!!! Yet ANOTHER benefit to the 7ft hose!!!

And if it doesn't work...you can always wrap it around their uh...well you get the idea!

[pir8]

My relationship with my ex-wife only had 2:
Phase 1: F-ing
Phase 2: F You!

Sounds as if you had Hallway sex.
Ya know where you pass each other in the hallway and say F***You

[Dejah]

Well after reading this I will say there are some interesting answers here.. so to add to it all I will give my .02 cents.

When starting a relationship I rarely want to spend that much time with someone I go for max 3 times a week.. even if I really like them I think we both need our own space and to keep our lives in tact as they were in many cases because then when we do see one another we have a lot to talk about...

[Stephi]

Well after reading this I will say there are some interesting answers here.. so to add to it all I will give my .02 cents.

When starting a relationship I rarely want to spend that much time with someone I go for max 3 times a week.. even if I really like them I think we both need our own space and to keep our lives in tact as they were in many cases because then when we do see one another we have a lot to talk about...

Good advice Dejah...but eventually you end up spending every day together and that just sucks after awhile. I guess I'm only cut out for long-distance relationships. Could it be that I can't have a "real" one for some reason? What would Dr. Phil say?

[shadragon]

Good advice Dejah...but eventually you end up spending every day together and that just sucks after awhile. I guess I'm only cut out for long-distance relationships. Could it be that I can't have a "real" one for some reason? What would Dr. Phil say?

When you find the "real" one that negative disappears. The secret is to have a good life without anyone else. Then if someone does come along, you can share it with them. At least that I what I tell Dr. Phil when he asked me for advice...

[Tolly]

Good advice Dejah...but eventually you end up spending every day together and that just sucks after awhile. I guess I'm only cut out for long-distance relationships. Could it be that I can't have a "real" one for some reason? What would Dr. Phil say?

When you find the "real" one that negative disappears. The secret is to have a good life without anyone else. Then if someone does come along, you can share it with them. At least that I what I tell Dr. Phil when he asked me for advice...

But, doesn't finding the "real" one or the "right" one truly illuminate what your "good" life is missing?

[shadragon]

But, doesn't finding the "real" one or the "right" one truly illuminate what your "good" life is missing?

I suspect if someone is unhappy alone, they will still be unhappy with someone else... Depending on others for positive feelings is self-destructive in the long run...

Now don't get me wrong, it is nice to wake up with someone in your arms. However, if you don't have him/her to hand (select your preference) then you should still be able to enjoy life...

[cmt489]

I suspect if someone is unhappy alone, they will still be unhappy with someone else... Depending on others for positive feelings is self-destructive in the long run...

Now don't get me wrong, it is nice to wake up with someone in your arms. However, if you don't have him/her to hand (select your preference) then you should still be able to enjoy life...

I agree. Life should be good even without that special person. That special person should simply take it to a whole new level of good (okay, make that great). Luckily for me, I seem to have found great!

[mantarraya]

I have been doing the long-distance relationship thing for over a year now. We started out seeing each other every 3 weeks or so, and before too long it became two weeks (with longer weekends for each visit whenever possible). In the past two months, we've seen each every weekend (due to his mom's recent heart surgery and misc other events), which you think would make it easier, but instead we find, that every time we have to leave each other, it just gets harder and harder. Suffice it to say, we can't wait till we can manage to live in the same place. Our lives were fine before we met, but have just gotten better and better as the relationship has progressed. NOW, just imagine what it will be like when he gets certified this summer!

Edited by mantarraya, 17 April 2007 - 12:27 PM.

[weescot]

I suspect if someone is unhappy alone, they will still be unhappy with someone else... Depending on others for positive feelings is self-destructive in the long run...

Now don't get me wrong, it is nice to wake up with someone in your arms. However, if you don't have him/her to hand (select your preference) then you should still be able to enjoy life...

I agree. Life should be good even without that special person. That special person should simply take it to a whole new level of good (okay, make that great). Luckily for me, I seem to have found great!

I agree with this too. Happiness comes from within. Without wishing to sound like Forest Grump, I compare relationships to rose growing: I grow my own roses in life, but when I get a special helper, I get sweeter smelling blooms.

[Stephi]

Good advice Dejah...but eventually you end up spending every day together and that just sucks after awhile. I guess I'm only cut out for long-distance relationships. Could it be that I can't have a "real" one for some reason? What would Dr. Phil say?

When you find the "real" one that negative disappears. The secret is to have a good life without anyone else. Then if someone does come along, you can share it with them. At least that I what I tell Dr. Phil when he asked me for advice...

Well, I guess I'm ok then cause I'm really happy by myself.