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[WreckWench]

I always hate that when women want "stimulating conversations". What does that mean exactly?

Friday night...alone at home...a guy on the other end of the keyboard IM'ing...something vibrating....'talk' about stimulating conversations....





oh yes.....






it was only my phone on vibrate....but for a moment...it sure was 'stimulating conversation'!!!!

[sea nmf]

Stimulating conversation:

Something that makes me actually ponder, think about something in a way that I haven't previously.

Conversing intelligently.

Discussing topics that we are both passionate about.

Regular conversation:

When my mind veers off somewhere else because I have so little interest.

The same thing over and over again.

Small talk.

[Lubold8431]

Friday night...alone at home...a guy on the other end of the keyboard IM'ing...something vibrating....'talk' about stimulating conversations....





oh yes.....






it was only my phone on vibrate....but for a moment...it sure was 'stimulating conversation'!!!!

HA!!!!!! Thats exactly what I was thinking. Im glad you said it and not me...

[WreckWench]

HA!!!!!! Thats exactly what I was thinking. Im glad you said it and not me...

Read ya like a book darling....a very GOOD book!!!




Ok ok...so TF is off for awhile and asked me to fill in for her!!! How am I doing????

[WreckWench]

Stimulating conversation:

Something that makes me actually ponder, think about something in a way that I haven't previously.

Conversing intelligently.

Discussing topics that we are both passionate about.

Regular conversation:

When my mind veers off somewhere else because I have so little interest.

The same thing over and over again.

Small talk.

And on a serious note...you are ABSOLUTELY RIGHT!!! And I'd add to that something that enthralls or capitivates my attention so that I don't realize that we've been talking for hours!

[triggerfish]

HA!!!!!!  Thats exactly what I was thinking.  Im glad you said it and not me...

Read ya like a book darling....a very GOOD book!!!




Ok ok...so TF is off for awhile and asked me to fill in for her!!! How am I doing????

i approve.

i'll send you the course work for your next semester soon.

in the meantime, keep up the good work!

[WreckWench]

i approve.

i'll send you the course work for your next semester soon.

in the meantime, keep up the good work!

Woo!!! Hoo!!! I'm passing!!!! I'm passing!!!! I can't wait for the next assignments to arrive!!!

[triggerfish]

as a nutritionist, you'll enjoy the next set: FRUIT.

we'll start with bananas.

[scubahoney]

OK- Here's my 2psi:

1st- I 100% agree with the idea of not settling. I deserve what is best for me as do we all (except the certain wacko's of the world).
2nd-I love the idea of striving for perfection. Everyone's idea of it is different. My idea of perfection for myself is finishing my education, doing some profound research, living my life to where I am happy. I don't think it has anything to do with being perfect..just reaching your own level of happiness. With that said, I would certainly want a man who is striving for perfection for himself. It's important that you are trying to reach the best you can be...and that is your perfection.
3rd- As far as the submissive/respect part...I don't agree completely..as I am sure many other women in this day don't. It's not about being submissive, but about being a partnership..a team. I will gladly do things for my mate, as I would hope he would gladly do things for me..but not as my submissive, as my partner. Call me a modern woman..I don't care. As well, I absolutely require a man that I can respect. Not only that, but he has to respect himself and me.
4th- As far as worth- I know that I deserve what I seek, and that he will deserve what he seeks as well. This isn't just for women, it goes for men as well. We choose who we love, we choose what we will accept and what we will not. I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe you fall in love when you find that person who is looking for exactly what you are looking for--that is when love happens.

Edited by scubahoney, 16 July 2004 - 11:17 PM.

[drbill]

SH- Thank goodness for modern women. I would not want my partner to be submissive to me, I'd want her to be my partner. As SH said, we'd both do things for the other partner as equals.

However on your part 4, I don't believe you find love by finding that for which you seek. I believe love evolves out of a relationship, it is a growth experience, it takes time to develop. Love at first sight? Lust may be (and that isn't all bad!). As I've written previously, my best relationships were with women who started as friends (and almost all of them ended as friends as well).

Written after another "lonely" night at the karaoke bar. I must be "looking for love in all the wrong places..." again.

Doc

[rhondajc18]

What a timely topic this is!

Great stuff all around---and I agree with much of what Scubahoney wrote.

I'm fed up with the mental midgets, arrogant a#%es, emotional cripples and financial leeches. I know there are real men out there who aren't any of those things but I think they all must live in Zimbabwe or something!!
LOL! (No offense meant to the cool dudes on this site, of course!)

NEVER SETTLE---truer words have never been written.

Rhonda

[NormsKid]

I agree with everything in the original post...that's why I haven't gotten married yet. Could have been married YEARS ago if I just wanted to be married....but I'm worth more than that.

I really don't see a need or have a desire to be miserably married, just to conform to some sort of societal norm. I would imagine that everyone here has that same sort of self love/self pride as well.

Michelle

[DryHeatDiver]

Great Post WW!!!
Rather than strive for perfection, I just try to be a better person today than I was yesterday. Most of the time I am, a few times not, but I always try to do, experience, or learn something that makes me better. I am not looking for a submissive woman or to be submissive. I am looking for mutual respect that two partners have for each other.
I would rather be happy single than miserable in a rotten marrage.
Besides alimony takes away from the dive funds

Edited by DryHeatDiver, 17 July 2004 - 09:49 AM.

[scubahoney]

However on your part 4, I don't believe you find love by finding that for which you seek. I believe love evolves out of a relationship, it is a growth experience, it takes time to develop. Love at first sight? Lust may be (and that isn't all bad!). As I've written previously, my best relationships were with women who started as friends (and almost all of them ended as friends as well).

drbill-that's sorta what I meant, but I didn't say it very well. I think love "happens" (or evolves out of friendship) after you have found someone who is looking for the same things you are for themselves. Friendship is the stepping stone to a good relationship. It doesn't happen once you have found that person. It happens once you know that person.

Edited by scubahoney, 17 July 2004 - 10:11 AM.

[triggerfish]

know what??
i've decided that i have no f*****g idea how love happens.

it doesn't seem to matter what you do or say, where you are, who you are, what you like, what you don't....

you can't force it, all the lists in the world won't make it appear, and careful planning will not end with favorable results.

it's not a game plan, it's not an organizational chart.

one day, when you're not looking, your heart opens up like vis suddenly improving on a murky dive, and POW! you're blindsided and awestruck by what appears before you.

something once familiar is transformed into something precious, and, with any luck, you are open enough to accept it.

that's what i think.