Meeting people through the internet
#16
Posted 07 May 2004 - 12:24 AM
~Jacques Cousteau
#17
Posted 07 May 2004 - 12:28 AM
Dr. B.
#18
Posted 07 May 2004 - 12:31 AM
~Jacques Cousteau
#19
Posted 07 May 2004 - 09:32 AM
Both sexes (HOPEFULLY NOT ON SD) have a hard time communicating what they want...what they mean and what they REALLY mean. Its easy to be your alterego or naughty twin online and very easy to accidently give the impression that you are loose or easy or horney or desparate when in fact you are merely teasing or just flirting.True, I agree that women are just as questionable as guys sometimes...just overall..men tend to be the more dangerous internet species.
Men can accidently give the impression of being too heavy...desparate...or scary when in fact they are only trying to be funny or witty.
Now complicate this further with people who prey on all the above and the internet is NOT a safe place unless you take ALL the proper precautions.
Having said that...no place is safe...not even SD so please be prudent. If you will notice we made an entire forum for this subject as we want people to be EXTREMELY careful and in particular on our site.
So having said that...girls...be mindful of your teasing...I see a LOT of men on this site showing a tremendous amount of self restraint to not overreact to some VERY playful posts. KUDOS guys for doing a great job!!
Women...I've seen several of you start to think twice about your posts and to tone it down...THANK YOU!!!! .....the guys can only handle so much so let's NOT overdue it!
To everyone....be mindful of that fact that our site is different and is especially tantalizing for new people who just discover us. Let them get some of it out of their system and we hope that they will also be careful in realizing that our posts are in fun and are not meant to be taken seriously. HOWEVER....everyone must realize that ANYTHING they post will most likely be taken very seriously so DON'T POST THINGS YOU AREN'T READY ABLE AND WILLING TO LIVE UP TOO!!!
And if you do post some wild stuff and you are up to it...then think TWICE about it because we don't want to have to enforce a lot of censoring on the site which is what we'll have to do if you get too carried away.
Now keep the good ideas flowing on how to keep our site safe and internet dating, meeting etc. safe for everyone as well!! -ww
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#20
Posted 07 May 2004 - 09:45 AM
I have met quite a number of folks after chatting up a storm on the Internet.
Most strickly for diving... sort of "let's meet at dive site XYZ, I'll have balloons on the car" we dive and that's all.
Some people have turned into really great friends, some should be drummed out of the gene pool.
Turst your gut instincts, if it feels ucky... run away!
#21
Posted 07 May 2004 - 09:51 AM
No other advice will be as important as those few little words.Trst your gut instincts, if it feels ucky... run away!
~Jacques Cousteau
#22
Posted 07 May 2004 - 11:58 AM
For example, from my posts you might get the impression that I'm horny, desperate, etc. You're right... NOT! These are things that are easily satisfied in a resort town like Avalon. However, I don't indulge in superficial relationships despite the banter. And I am one of those strange men (I think others abound here on SD, especially the likes of Walter) who really enjoy having women as close friends. Many local women would ask me to dance with them at the local club. I asked several why and they all said because I'm "safe" (sniff) and didn't resort to cheap thrills. I've got to do something about that reputation!!!
I know I can be very shy when it comes to opening up to a woman I don't know. I seem to be getting out of that shell recently, since I've started introducing myself to more of the lady divers there. Once I have an entree though I am very open and communicative and have made many friends despite my initial shyness.
You can be surprised at the behavior of people you know "well." People you have spent time with doing things of common interest. Remember 'Chie's posting about her drunken male fiend (er, was it friend?). Of course a newcomer into your sphere can exhibit unexpected behavior as well.
I think I need to get wet now.
Dr. B.
Edited by drbill, 07 May 2004 - 11:59 AM.
#23
Posted 07 May 2004 - 01:55 PM
There are a lot of really nice women who are looking for solid relationships and are using the Net as a means to that end. That percentage, however, seems painfully short of 100%.
I would say that at least a third of the women I've met do not look like their photos. My best friend (significantly more jaded than I) refers to this as the "older/fatter" syndrome. I have met a couple of women who admitted that their pictures were eight- and ten-years old, respectively. One had the nerve to try to justify it by saying "But I look just the same!". Now I don't care who you are or who your plastic surgeon is or if you sleep in a vat of formaldehyde, you don't look like you did ten years ago. There were a couple others who I literally did not even recognize. My best friend and I have drawn up some general rules we use to screen profiles. I'm happy to share if there is an interest.
There are a number of women who are just interested in power dating, seeing how many dates they can line up in a week. I don't know if it's that they are interested in seeing how many free dinners they can score at nice restaurants or whatever, but it is a disheartening number.
There are a significant number of women who drag emotional baggage from relationship to relationship. I'm not your dad, your brother, or your ex, and I refuse to date them in your head.
There are a few who are just downright crazy. I've had to go to the police on one of them and started the process for a restraining order before she left me alone.
Other's experiences?
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#24
Posted 07 May 2004 - 03:17 PM
I call it Natural Narcosis Selection....if we can get wet together....we may do many things together! But the high on land has to equal that in the water!!!
Contact me directly at Kamala@SingleDivers.com for your private or group travel needs or 864-557-6079 AND don't miss SD's 2018-2021 Trips! ....here! Most are once in a lifetime opportunities...don't miss the chance to go!!
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Click here TO PAY for Merchandise, Membership, or Travel
"Imitation is the sincerest flattery." - Gandhi
"Imitation is proof that originality is rare." - ScubaHawk
SingleDivers.com...often imitated...never duplicated!
Kamala Shadduck c/o SingleDivers.com LLC
2234 North Federal Hwy, #1010 Boca Raton, FL 33431
formerly...
710 Dive Buddy Lane; Salem, SC 29676
864-557-6079 tel/celfone/office or tollfree fax 888-480-0906
#25
Posted 07 May 2004 - 03:20 PM
This includes, but is not limited to: blueangel, ColdWaterSmurf, Den, Diverbrian, drbill, HDrider, hydrophilicity, ncladydiver, OHDiver, sapphire, scuba_jenny, sea nmf, and WreckWench.
Bbyctcher, Blondie, Divegirlzoe, KBScarlett, mamm, Marvel, and Sharon I met first in person.
DSSW,
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#26
Posted 07 May 2004 - 04:22 PM
- Albert Einstein
"Do, or do not. There is no 'try'."
- Yoda ('The Empire Strikes Back')
"And the trees are all kept equal by hatch, axe, and saw"
- Rush (The Trees)
#27
Posted 07 May 2004 - 06:48 PM
I can sadly say I spent 2 1/2 years on 2 different Internet 'dating' sites. I kept thinking there had to be someone out there that was honest and was looking for what I was in a relationship. Unfortunately, I can tell you of many disappointments, lots of disillusionment, and lots of lies. Do you know guys lie about their age (shaving off 15 years) and posting photos from high school I think. Yes, I know it works the other way also. I learned my description of honesty is much different than others. In a positive note, I learned a lot about myself and where I’m willing to compromise. Oh well, I digress and no I’m not going to post on the ‘Wanted in a Dive Buddy’ thread.
Yes, always meet in public place and don’t give out your home phone. You can call them using *67 to block your number. I found it better to talk on the phone before meeting.
Edited by nextariel, 07 May 2004 - 06:49 PM.
#28
Posted 07 May 2004 - 06:52 PM
Sure, we all present a facade to the world- that happens whether or not the initial contact is on line or in person. However, personalities, attitudes, tastes, & values do seep through our posts over time. Many of us have, or are going to, meet up with one another in group settings which will allow us to get to know each other a little more. From there, each of us can decide if we want to pursue more. Either way, I suspect we will all have a great time diving & hanging together & some lasting friendships are already in the proccess of forming. Plus, there's always PM'ing!! :anna:
"I believe in Christianity as I believe that the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else." C. S. Lewis
#29
Posted 07 May 2004 - 09:01 PM
I had one actually just show up on my doorstep one Friday night. We had spoken several times on the phone and felt very comfortable with each other. However, I didn't expect her to just show up (especially on an island with no boats back until the following morning). I was pleasantly surprised and we had a nice weekend together and kept in touch by phone (and I visited her) until just recently. Unfortunately she has "disappeared." At least her e-mail addy and phone number are no longer good. I think she went back to China (she'd lived in the West for 10 years). I wish she hadn't (although she wasn't a diver I thoroughly enjoyed talking with her about our two countries).
As I mentioned earlier, living on an island does not always make it easy to meet women. I've never been one to "pick up" someone. Need a more casual opportunity to talk and get to know someone first.
Dr. B.
#30
Posted 07 May 2004 - 10:10 PM
~Jacques Cousteau
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