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Posted 20 September 2012 - 06:53 PM

I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....


That's just messed up....

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Posted 20 September 2012 - 07:30 PM

I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....



OMG!!! :banghead:

Just because I have cat's crying on my front porch, does NOT mean I'm not attractive!! :taz:

I have you know some men LIKE hairy legs!! :cool1:

I can be just as snooty as the High Maintenance chick that lives next door!! Why last week she came over to complain about the cat's getting into her flower beds.....Hmph....I told her where she could put her roses!!! :-D

On top of that, she's skinny as a rail!! I take her meals from time to time.....she needs a little meat on her bones!! I refuse to feed all her company though. My goodness, I guess the poor thing can't do anything for herself. She always has some man over there fixing one thing or another! She MUST be a little on the stupid side. :o
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Posted 20 September 2012 - 08:04 PM

Sissy that is the FUNNIEST thing I've ever read

THANKS!!! I needed that! :lmao:

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 07:29 AM



I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....



OMG!!! :banghead:

Just because I have cat's crying on my front porch, does NOT mean I'm not attractive!! :taz:

I have you know some men LIKE hairy legs!! :cool1:

I can be just as snooty as the High Maintenance chick that lives next door!! Why last week she came over to complain about the cat's getting into her flower beds.....Hmph....I told her where she could put her roses!!! :-D

On top of that, she's skinny as a rail!! I take her meals from time to time.....she needs a little meat on her bones!! I refuse to feed all her company though. My goodness, I guess the poor thing can't do anything for herself. She always has some man over there fixing one thing or another! She MUST be a little on the stupid side. :o



It sounds like your neighbor is working off her assetts, a women that always has a man over must be doing something right...sounds like she gets free labor...when did "skinny as a rail" become a negative characteristic? I like a little meat on the bone as well, however, I do not see anything healthly about 5'1" frame tipping the scales at 215lbs even if Oprah says "love you for you"...I think Honey Boo Boo's mom is hillarious, but I dont want to see here in a thong on the beach..:welcome:

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 07:30 AM

I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....


That's just messed up....


my shrink agreed with you, so I got another shrink....

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Posted 21 September 2012 - 02:08 PM

Hi all,

I just wanted to pipe in for a second on this conversation about being "high maintenance" and in particular about being "ugly." Truth be told, even from the most superficial standards, I know very few physically ugly people. I know dozens of people with attitude problems (to me this is high maintenance) and once I identify them I keep my distance. I think the majority of people do this. I don't care how attractive you are, man or woman, I won't waste my time if you have an intolerable personality. No one is allowed to be rude.

Also, the comment about "when did skinny as a rail become a bad thing?" I think it became trouble when people began to have warped perceptions about themselves that led to eating disorders and other health problems. I work on a campus where approximately 12% of the female population and 2% of the male population suffer from eating disorders It's really heartbreaking to watch a smart, young, vibrant college students place their entire self worth in the number that pops up on the scale.

And finally, in terms of "high maintenance" meaning having a lengthy beauty routine, I own up to it and I'm proud of it, lol. I dye, straighten, exfoliate, polish, wax, thread, laser, and sweat at the gym as often as I can. I feel good when I look good and make absolutely no apologies! I assure you, if I'm ever finally able to join you all on a trip I'll wake up early enough to make sure it won't interfere with the day's activities. :flirt:

I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....


That's just messed up....


my shrink agreed with you, so I got another shrink....



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Posted 21 September 2012 - 04:59 PM

Sissy's remarks about the gal next door were a joke but it did illustrate your point Itsa that while society prizes and praises "thinness" ...not every thin person is attractive on the inside which was Sissy's point...however a "thin and attractive" person does seem to get away more with less angelic behavior which was Lloyd's point.

WOW! That is a lot of points! LOL!

Great discussion even if a bit tongue and cheek for some! ;)

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Posted 24 September 2012 - 07:35 AM

:lmao:



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Posted 24 September 2012 - 08:05 AM

Hi all,

I just wanted to pipe in for a second on this conversation about being "high maintenance" and in particular about being "ugly." Truth be told, even from the most superficial standards, I know very few physically ugly people. I know dozens of people with attitude problems (to me this is high maintenance) and once I identify them I keep my distance. I think the majority of people do this. I don't care how attractive you are, man or woman, I won't waste my time if you have an intolerable personality. No one is allowed to be rude.

Also, the comment about "when did skinny as a rail become a bad thing?" I think it became trouble when people began to have warped perceptions about themselves that led to eating disorders and other health problems. I work on a campus where approximately 12% of the female population and 2% of the male population suffer from eating disorders It's really heartbreaking to watch a smart, young, vibrant college students place their entire self worth in the number that pops up on the scale.

And finally, in terms of "high maintenance" meaning having a lengthy beauty routine, I own up to it and I'm proud of it, lol. I dye, straighten, exfoliate, polish, wax, thread, laser, and sweat at the gym as often as I can. I feel good when I look good and make absolutely no apologies! I assure you, if I'm ever finally able to join you all on a trip I'll wake up early enough to make sure it won't interfere with the day's activities. :flirt:

I'm going to let you in on a man secret: What you women refer to as high maintenance, men call attractive. What you women call independant, men think of unattractive with 6 cats, hairy legs and a bookshelf full of romance novels....Yes there are exceptions but they are rare. When my mom told me in third grade that the if the girls didnt like me, then they were not worth it....what she should have said was, comb your hair, bath more often, and quit picking your nose....it didn't help that I was an ugly child either...

some times the truth hurts....do you know why you very seldom will find a snoooty, unattractive, chubby single woman???? It's because they can't get away with what the high maintenance women can...They have to be nice, this is why we as a society resent the opportunities giving to the attractive classs....at least us uglies can think we have great personalities....


That's just messed up....


my shrink agreed with you, so I got another shrink....


if you havent seen alot of ugly people, then you haven't been to Ireland, or Mississippi....

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Posted 24 September 2012 - 05:42 PM

I am glad someone 'dug up' this thread.... it is so fun to re-read it all !


The most beautiful women are:

trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.

(Plagiarized from the Boy Scouts of America.)

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Posted 25 September 2012 - 10:36 AM

I am glad someone 'dug up' this thread.... it is so fun to re-read it all !


The most beautiful women are:

trustworthy, loyal, helpful, friendly, courteous, kind, obedient, cheerful, thrifty, brave, clean, and reverent.

(Plagiarized from the Boy Scouts of America.)


those sound more like the woman with 8 cats and a passion for Rocky Road ice cream with the "I love me for me" complex....but WTH if you find all that and a full set of teeth, marry her.

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Posted 25 September 2012 - 12:05 PM

LC...just a heads up...

We know you are pretty angry and/or hurt about your recent divorce and we get that "all women are suspect" right now. But depending on your goals you may want to temper your comments.

For example...if you never intend to meet anyone on this site nor go diving with us...then its ok to hide behind the cyber veil knowing you can vent your hurt and anger and never see any of the peeps on this site. (Within the TOS of course.)

If however you think you might want to join some of the local members sometime or go on a trip...then you will want to tone it down a bit.

As mentioned before this site is owned by a woman, run by a large percentage of women and actively visited and participated in by women. We can't help you broke up with your ex... we are sorry it happened but being human we will soon be offended at the constant barrage of negative comments about women.

So please accept this friendly observation in the manner it was intended. Now if you really want to seek answers to "why" let us know. I'm sure you will get some excellent perspective and feedback.

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Posted 25 September 2012 - 12:39 PM

Well stated, Kamala!!! 'Nuf said.

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Posted 25 September 2012 - 01:28 PM

LC...just a heads up...

We know you are pretty angry and/or hurt about your recent divorce and we get that "all women are suspect" right now. But depending on your goals you may want to temper your comments.

For example...if you never intend to meet anyone on this site nor go diving with us...then its ok to hide behind the cyber veil knowing you can vent your hurt and anger and never see any of the peeps on this site. (Within the TOS of course.)

If however you think you might want to join some of the local members sometime or go on a trip...then you will want to tone it down a bit.

As mentioned before this site is owned by a woman, run by a large percentage of women and actively visited and participated in by women. We can't help you broke up with your ex... we are sorry it happened but being human we will soon be offended at the constant barrage of negative comments about women.

So please accept this friendly observation in the manner it was intended. Now if you really want to seek answers to "why" let us know. I'm sure you will get some excellent perspective and feedback.

Kamala



I also know several Men with 8 cats and a passion for Rocky road ice cream.....

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Posted 25 September 2012 - 01:46 PM


I also know several Men with 8 cats and a passion for Rocky road ice cream.....



Yourself included??? Got all your teeth? I'm thinking you have the "Love me for me" thing going already too!

Well all be...by your definition you might just be a good catch! ;)

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