I was being interviewed by a gal on the phone, who asked the usual questions on what I looked like, etc, which are ok, but one question killed it. "Do you have a full head of hair?" I laughed and said "yes I do, but the question tells me you have some very superficial standards, so I don't think I'm interested." Sorry, but that's almost as bad as wanting to know the size of my appendage, really stupid.
For some reason this took me by surprise...afterall, at least 50% of our society is extremely how shall we say...'visually oriented' and a full head of hair is no different than a full set of _________ you fill in the blanks.
So is it really shallow to worry about physical appearances???
p.s. I want to thank BrinyBay for his thought inspiring comment.
Well, let me take back the "really stupid" part, that was a little harsh. The point was she was ready to write me off w/o even meeting me unless I had I full head of hair. IMO, that would be like me asking her what cup size she was. It's not something either one of us has any control over, and therefore a bit unfair. (Although I will sympathize with women who detest men with bad comb-overs, it hides nothing and looks ridiculous!) It is possible I may have misunderstood her, and she was only curious, but I didn't get that impression from the conversation. Of course, it's only natural that we are drawn to people we find visually appealing, but looks fade over time. That full head of hair won't be there forever, unless you're like my Uncle Jim who kept his up until the day he died at 77, it only turned white.
I feel I've grown beyond that, looks are not that critical to me anymore, so I don't care if women have a flat chest or a pear-shaped figure. (Hygiene is a different matter. No tolerance for bad hygiene). Likewise, if they are measuring my worth by my looks, then we have some very incompatible values and I don't see any point in wasting each other's time. They're also about 25 years too late, I was a much more handsome devil in my 20s-30s.
Edited by Brinybay, 15 February 2005 - 12:20 PM.