Plan my next dive trip!
Is that going to be January 1st at CSSP for the Polar Bears Club?
Posted 13 December 2005 - 08:39 AM
Plan my next dive trip!
Posted 13 December 2005 - 10:25 AM
Walter, I already owe you a visit. Kim and I are going to plan a road trip before too long, and you'll definately be "the destination" (Though we may stop at a few other "attractions" along the way!Let's go diving!
Plan my next dive trip!
Is that going to be January 1st at CSSP for the Polar Bears Club?
Posted 13 December 2005 - 11:01 AM
Posted 13 December 2005 - 12:00 PM
Posted 13 December 2005 - 01:25 PM
Well, see...that's my point. Lots of people do the online thing. Chances of meeting someone local online aren't really all that great even in a big city. Now I know the possibility of romance with someone several states away or in another country is pretty slim; but we're talking an hour or two to maybe half-day drive max. There are a few men that have gone and do go out of their way to dive with me when they could be diving with their local buddies instead. But for all so far...distance is stated as the reason there could never be anything other than friendship. The message it sends me is "if you were worth it; I'd consider it....but you're not so I'll move on". Ouch!While I would not intentionally look for complications (such as distance) from the outset, that does not mean anyone should purposely avoid establishing a relationship with someone that is worthwhile only because of issues like these once interest or feelings develop. If it is the real thing, go for it!
Posted 13 December 2005 - 01:34 PM
Howard and Tina,Well, see...that's my point. Lots of people do the online thing. Chances of meeting someone local online aren't really all that great even in a big city. Now I know the possibility of romance with someone several states away or in another country is pretty slim; but we're talking an hour or two to maybe half-day drive max. There are a few men that have gone and do go out of their way to dive with me when they could be diving with their local buddies instead. But for all so far...distance is stated as the reason there could never be anything other than friendship. The message it sends me is "if you were worth it; I'd consider it....but you're not so I'll move on". Ouch!While I would not intentionally look for complications (such as distance) from the outset, that does not mean anyone should purposely avoid establishing a relationship with someone that is worthwhile only because of issues like these once interest or feelings develop. If it is the real thing, go for it!
So if you're looking for complications (like distance) initially; you're ruling out the possibility for feelings or interest to develop. Love at first sight is a wonderful fantasy, but chances of it lasting a lifetime are slim.
Posted 13 December 2005 - 01:56 PM
[I]f you're looking for complications (like distance) initially; you're ruling out the possibility for feelings or interest to develop.
Posted 13 December 2005 - 03:55 PM
Posted 13 December 2005 - 06:05 PM
Posted 13 December 2005 - 06:38 PM
Been there, got the t-shirt. I moved from SoCal to Texas six years ago because of a man who now is no longer in my life. Doesn't mean I wouldn't do it again for the prospect of a lasting relationship.I'm with Walter.....I am in Houston because of my soulmate ( see my comments there).( and am single again)..it is real different when you are hyped up for a weekend or a week off together...it is really different when you see what everyday life is like......I think if I were to consider serious involvement...the man would have to live close enough that we could be in each others daily lives ...that is part of knowing who they are and who we are in the midst of them.
Edited by Twinklez, 13 December 2005 - 06:42 PM.
Posted 21 December 2005 - 04:13 PM
Posted 21 December 2005 - 08:27 PM
Thank you Mitch for your input. It's not so much a particular person, but seems most all that I have met since being single have been of the same mentality. If I'm more than the next town over, I'm just too far for a relationship; but not necessarily too far for...a friend... with occasional benefits. Maybe the men I've met just want to be able to sample the goods routinely before even considering anything long term. Maybe I expect too much, maybe I'm old fashioned, maybe, maybe. The bottom line is that I don't wish to be sampled and I'm not willing to settle for friends with benefits.I don't see anything that can be a hard-and-fast rule as far as handling this kind of situation, you have to handle it as it goes. If he is not willing to drive two hours one way to come see you, then I doubt he was really interested to begin with.
Posted 21 December 2005 - 11:54 PM
Posted 21 December 2005 - 11:55 PM
Much to you, Tina!Maybe the men I've met just want to be able to sample the goods routinely before even considering anything long term. Maybe I expect too much, maybe I'm old fashioned, maybe, maybe. The bottom line is that I don't wish to be sampled and I'm not willing to settle for friends with benefits.
Posted 21 December 2005 - 11:59 PM
Edited by drbill, 22 December 2005 - 12:01 AM.
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