Really?!? Where've I been? I usually consider myself quite observant. Say it ain't so, Henry!
Nobody likes sarcastic women (except me, of course)
Posted 31 January 2006 - 02:52 AM
Really?!? Where've I been? I usually consider myself quite observant. Say it ain't so, Henry!
Posted 31 January 2006 - 03:11 AM
Posted 31 January 2006 - 08:57 AM
Posted 31 January 2006 - 01:50 PM
Bars are a lousy place to find a nice woman to go out with. You admit that you hold back and let the "bad boys" go for the women. What makes you think the women are really interested in them? I do happy hours with friends but I never expect to find a man there. I think you're looking for love in all the wrong places and you may be right about the Lancaster thang.....HMMM...a really nice guy can't figure out why he hasn't found the woman he is looking for? maybe he should examine his criteria???
You mean "perfection"? No, the thing is that I think really nice guys just don't get noticed. While I am watching all the "bad boys" performing their routines for women, the pickup lines, the money flashing, the loud talk, etc., I am in the background, not wanting to join what I see as so much bulls***. Because there is so much noise up front, I don't get noticed.
I'm speaking "real-life" as well as metaphorically. In society, so much talk about men centers around the "bad boys". I'm a school teacher, and I have to notice that sometimes I spend so much time on my discipline kids that the good students get a little left out, whereas they are the ones who really want to learn. I think it's the same scenario with "nice guys".
Don't get me wrong...I'm not "prissy" by any means...I like my fun. I'll drink beer and enjoy a barbeque and football game. I play on sports leagues, ride a motorcycle, do active things (like dive), and, by the way, I also like to cook and (don't make me have to come over there) I like shopping. But I won't be a jerk to women. I try not to be a jerk to anybody, like DrBill says, male or female.
I don't know, maybe I just don't see the signals very well. Haha...that very well could be it.
Doug
Posted 31 January 2006 - 03:47 PM
Posted 31 January 2006 - 04:23 PM
Posted 31 January 2006 - 04:27 PM
huh? girls just wanna have fu-un but with a buncha crazed diving maniacs sounds good to meNow what is that thing i have heard......Girls like to flirt and date Bad Boys....but they do not marry or introduce them to the parents...unless....then they end up divorced...or if the "unless" never happens ....Thus they are still single!
Posted 31 January 2006 - 08:13 PM
Posted 31 January 2006 - 08:55 PM
Jon, excellent points. Another point, be decisive. "I don't know, where do you wanna go?" is a big turn off.
Posted 31 January 2006 - 10:08 PM
Jon, excellent points. Another point, be decisive. "I don't know, where do you wanna go?" is a big turn off.
Edited by finley, 01 February 2006 - 07:02 AM.
Posted 01 February 2006 - 01:35 AM
huh? girls just wanna have fu-un...
Posted 01 February 2006 - 07:50 AM
Jon, excellent points. Another point, be decisive. "I don't know, where do you wanna go?" is a big turn off.
now Walter...sometimes I don't know..or don;t care...for ex. Where do you want to eat? I don't know ( hadn't thought about it) where do you want to go??? That is a true question...not a game I am usually up for anything except sushi...and if thats what your craving...they usually have a salad sans the raw fish....I thimk men don't thimk Im serious when I say Im pretty easy to please...
Walter... strangely in these days of "liberation," "are you paying?" also seems to be a big turn off!
Posted 01 February 2006 - 10:02 AM
Walter... strangely in these days of "liberation," "are you paying?" also seems to be a big turn off!
Nothing strange about that. It makes you look cheap. Being cheap is also a turn off. This is the biggest area of confusion - who pays? It used to be simple, the man always paid. Now, it's generally assumed the person who issued the invitation pays. Unfortunately, this is not universal, so it can get tricky. If I invited her, I assume I'm paying. If she invited me, it gets tricky, I assume nothing unless she makes it clear when she invited me that it's her treat. If it's not clear, when the bill arrives I ignore it for a moment and continue chatting. After a short I pause reach for the bill and pay it. If she objects, I don't argue.
Posted 01 February 2006 - 10:20 AM
Posted 01 February 2006 - 12:01 PM
Also, keep in mind, the traditional date isn't necessary. Instead, don't ask someone out on a date. Tell them what you are going to do. Invite them along, but go do it either with them or alone. It's not as expensive, it's more fun and if she doesn't go, you still have fun.
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