As I was reading through the messages on this topic. I saw many things that I agree with.
As a single female, working on a Ph.D. - frankly, I've given up. I'm tired of guys that are intimidated with my education or my previous job (engineer) or and money I was making, or my hobbies.
Yes, I'm happy with my life. I own my own house, I have friends (non-divers until now) and pets. I have money in the bank and a retirement account to boot.
But, as long as everyone is being honest, I'm tired of people assuming that because I'm naturally blonde, well, that says enough right there. And, now that I'm a teacher.... people look down on what I'm doing, like I'm not a professional. Hmmm!
Like I said in a previous post, I'm just glad to have found this site, and people with the same interests, and people to dive with. I was getting tired of going on trips solo and trying to find someone who wanted to buddy up, or being able to dive with someone who is similar in experience. (sorry newbie divers, but some times we want to do harder dive sites, and can't because of the experience of our buddy).
Cheer up Guys! - you're a welcome relief to someone who seems to only meet non-swimmers or people who need to ask, "is it okay that I'm scared to death of water." Urgh!!
pamela
I have sooooooooo many times heard the same thing about the guys being "intimidated" by me. I agree with everything you are saying here. I am in the exact same boat!
Intimidation isn't restricted to just men being intimidated by intelligent women. In my non-diving life, I'm president of a chapter of Mensa, and I've had women tell me that it's intimidating. That said, I agree with both of you 100%.
Quite honestly, my competition isn't with the woman I'd be dating, but with other guys that she could date. In fact, back when I was engaged, I'd freely admit that my fiancee was smarter than I was. I veiwed it as a positive that this extremely intelligent woman was with me.
Rick
Before you attempt to beat the odds, be sure you could survive the odds beating you.