Not at all. It's not even what I'm saying, it's what the book is suggesting. That's why I'm paraphrasing it -- I reckon it knows plenty more than me!So, you're saying that we (men) should "feel" your (women's) "pain"???
Anyway, to elaborate on the intimacy statement, these are direct quotes taken from the book, following the statement:
"...(women) friends enjoy the opportunity to share freely the mishaps, frustrations, disappointments, and complaints of the week."
"A man can easily get the wrong impression. When a women dwells on negative feelings or problems in her life, instead of valuing her willingness to share openly, a man mistakenly assumes that she is difficult to please. . . . . When she appears to be difficult to please, he may easily become turned off."
Personally, I don't care for the word 'dwells'. Just because a woman might mention a trial or tribulation, it doesn't mean she's the queen of negativity. And how many men are that interested in 'pleasing' a woman, anyway?