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[Dejah]

The best advice I could give on this is to sit down and tell him of your concerns regarding how he acted... don't get into a fight about it, talk calmly and see what comes out...


Dejah

Edited by Dejah, 02 June 2005 - 01:43 PM.

[AliKat]

My personal outlook is if I can trust the woman I'm with, there's no reason for me to be jealous. If I can't trust her, I don't want her.

I couldn't agree more. If I feel the need to be jealous of someone (whether my issue or his), then that's someone I don't want to be with. I'd rather put my energy into finding someone I feel more comfortable with (or just taking care of myself) than waste it on being jealous.

[jextract]

Think of jealosy as a mental illness, or the indicator for a hidden mental illness. Now run. Quickly. About 1300 miles south.

[finGrabber]

Think of jealosy as a mental illness, or the indicator for a hidden mental illness. Now run. Quickly. About 1300 miles south.

Wouldn't that put her somewhere in LA??

[jextract]

Well, you don't say! How did that work out?

[cmt489]

Two words Jamie - Dirty Dog!

[RichardB]

....................If I can't trust her, I don't want her...............

Amen! If you can't trust her, why even bother getting upset, angry or jealous or anything else when it's so much easier, safer and less stressful to turn and walk away.

Edited by RichardB, 02 June 2005 - 02:42 PM.

[jextract]

Two words Jamie - Dirty Dog!

Shhhhhhhh! At this point that's just a rumor!

[Blublood]

Two words Jamie - Dirty Dog!

Shhhhhhhh! At this point that's just a rumor!

[steelemagnolia6]

I think that I'll second ot thrif the advice to RUNNNNNNNNNNN


If you have a lack of trust, and it seems that you do, then it will only get worse.

Like Walter if I can't trust the person that I am with then I don't need to be with him. I won't be in any relationship where there is not trust. I have lots of buds and quite a few of them are of the male part of our population and I do do out with them..out diving, out fishing , out listening tp them whine about their girlfriends. It's a matter of trust and respect.... ]



AAAARRRRRRUUUUUUUUGGGGGGHHHHHHHH is the way that all of us feel sometimes

[ScubaHawk]

My thought is that jealousy is really rooted in lack of self esteem, lack of confidence, and/or controlling behaviors. Oi!

Ditto - in my experience it's usually a lack of self esteem. Just a word to the wise, in some cases, it's guilt over their own actions that causes jealousy of others. It's amazing how often I see this in my line of work.


P.S. aaaaarrrrrggggghhh - is spelled with 5 - Gs and only 3 - Hs - Just to nit pic

[nextariel]

P.S. aaaaarrrrrggggghhh - is spelled with 5 - Gs and only 3 - Hs - Just to nit pic

Seems it is time for you to up the dosage once again!

[drdiver]

P.S. aaaaarrrrrggggghhh - is spelled with 5 - Gs and only 3 - Hs - Just to nit pic teeth.gif

It depends whether you are Southern, Northern, Western, or Eastern Pirate. Canadian Pirates, I don't know how they spell it. But I think it is probably correctly spelled.

"aaaaarrrrrggggghhh, eh". In Mexico, it's spelled "Caramba".

Your friendly diver-pirate,

(just got through reading a good pirate book, Scubahawk--Caribbee, by Thomas Hoover, think you would like it)

drdiver

[David Evans]

I don't have time or room in my life for jealousy - neither mine nor anyone else's.

It's a waste of time and energy. I assume that my partner is mature enough to tell me if she'd rather be with someone else. Perhaps that's a mistaken assumption, but I figure if she didn't want to be with me, she wouldn't be, so why worry about it?

Jealousy to me is a trust issue... and the sad part is that trust isn't a tangible thing that can easily be given or taken away. Either you trust someone or you don't. Granted, the ability to trust someone can be a direct function of one's own self-confidence, and perhaps of one's conscience, but the bottom line remains: trust, or trust not. </yoda>

Good luck to you on this one.... this will be hard to resolve.

-david

Edited by David Evans, 02 June 2005 - 05:47 PM.

[HAWKEYE1251]

Just to drop my 2 bits in, is it possible that some of you are selling cmt a little short. Twice, CMT, you have mentioned that you care a great deal for this fella, and would like to pursue this further, am I right? Maybe you are being sold a little short and you are a super terrific individual that he is not confident enough, wants to stay around. If you think he is such a great guy, then let him know that. Also possibly you could reinforce your commitment to the relationship. But by no means would I suggest that this is your fault or your lack of commitment. If you are serious about the relationship, then it will either work out or it won't.(I don't know what "phase" your relationship is in). If doing that does not settle his mind and make him begin to trust and believe in you, then absolutely, run like hell, as far as possible, and don't look back. As so many others have said, there are many who CANNOT trust and I pity them. And on the other hand, there are some relationships that just don't align. I agree that jealousy is waste of energy, because short of being married, there is no good reason to tolerate it while in the building of a relationship. If it exists now and cannot be resolved it will only be magnified down the road. Trust is KEY and must be first before anything else can be founded. Definately put any further growth in this relationship on hold until you can resolve this issue.(In my humble opinion). Good luck and smile!!!

Hawkeye1251