And THAT is I think the key not to mention SUPER SEXY. Perhaps you were not meant to have a date but rather enjoy the limelight you so richly deserved by yourself? Anyone with you might of defused that moment. It was your moment and one richly deserved. It should have been savored and enjoyed for what it was.
Actually, I’m quite used to awards presentation. But this one really stuck with me. Over the years, I’ve received numerous awards, citations, etc. It was when I was standing in front of 500 people, all of which were in couples, that I felt that something was really wrong. Then I realized that every time I received one of these awards, or had a banquet in my honor, I was ALWAYS alone. I’ve never had a moment to share with someone else. In fact, in my life, I’ve only been to a single wedding where I was dating someone. (And I think she was just with me for the wedding. It was in Italy and we spent a month there during the wedding, which I paid for.)
I know who I am. I’m have a personality, and I’m successful in most of the things I do. I like myself. I don’t mind being alone. It’s just that I’m always alone.
I’m not “needy” or “clingy” or anything, but it’s just that being alone all the time wears you down. In my work, I’m alone most of the time. I travel a lot (mostly for work), always alone. I live alone. I have a hell of a lot to offer, and it’s frustrating to see all these losers guys around me dating (and cheating on) very nice women. The same women that would only be interested in me as a friend.
Here is a perfect example. Sept of 03, A women was trapped in a burning car on rt 78. I ran over to her car, (with the car well engulfed in flames) and tried to open the door. Due to the collision, the door was jammed. I was able to pry the door open (thank God for cheap steel on imports.) Once the door was open, she screamed to me “I can’t move!”
(She had broken her pelvis in the accident.) I reached into the car, and pulled her out. I then dragged her about 15 feet from the wreck, when the smoke overcame me. A few people on the sidelines grabbed her and moved her further from the car.
After catching my breath, I looked at the other car. There was a woman in that one, screaming. Then I noticed the smoke coming from the hood of her car. I ran over, saw that she had a broken femur and that moving her was very dangerous. I had a fire extinguisher in my car that I used to put out the small fire so we could keep her in the car. Then I started first aid. In this whole process, I suffered from 2nd degree burns on my face and hands. Both women lived, but it would be a long time before either of them walked again (neither where wearing seatbelts.)
So, where am I going with this? The next day, I was front page news, in 2 states. Inside the paper was a story about the amount of marriage proposals that Scott Peterson was receiving IN PRISON. (Remember, he murdered his wife and unborn baby.) The girl I pulled out of the car had 7 marriage proposals from her hospital bed. Me, I couldn’t get a date! WTF?
BTW, here are links to the newspaper stories…
http://tinyurl.com/3cchf and
http://tinyurl.com/4obtuSo, I ask you, does this sound like a wimpy guy? Isn’t this the kind of thing you would look for in a person?
Let me see...two women catch your eye. One gives you signals that she is a nice girl and is very focused on dropping hints about how great she cooks, how much she loves kids etc. The other well she is trying to ignore you but still keeps holding your eye. Then she challenges you to something silly and you've taken the bait. Now you are engaged in a conversation with her and you are trying to figure her out.
OK, maybe this is where I make a mistake, but no. I’d go for the woman that is showing clear signs of interest. Frankly, I consider what the other girl is doing to be along the lines of “head games.” If you are interested in me, show it. If not, don’t bother. I do use logic to drive my decisions more than emotion. It’s a requirement in my job.